H0W D0 i CH00SE BETWEEN MY CURRENT B0YFRiEND AND MY EX.?

Question

i UDED TO LiVE iN LA WERE A HAD A HUGE CRUSH ON A BOY NAME ALEX.MY PARENTS M0VED ME TO THE BAY AREA ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO.SiNCE THEN WE'D BEEN TALKiNG 0N THE PH0NE EVERY DAY.AND EVENTUALLY WE FELL iN L0VE.BUT JUST RECENTLY(2 M0NTHS AG0)i STARTED DATiNG THiS GUY NAME DJ.N0W iT iSNT LiKE ALEX DiDNT HAVE AN0THER GiRL.HES KiND 0F THE PLAYER TYPE.BUT HE W0ULD SWEAR THAT SHE MEANT N0THiNG.iT TOOK T0 L0NG F0R HiM T0 LEAVE HER AND THATS WHY i LEFT HiM F0R DJ.BUT N0W HES CALLiNG AGAiN.ALEX BR0KE UP WiTH HiS GiRLFRiEND AND N0W WERE STARTiNG T0 TALK AGAiN.i STiLL L0VE HiM AND i CAN TELL HE STiLL L0VES ME ALS0.BUT i D0NT WANNA G0 BACK T0 ALL THE PAiN.BUT AT THE SAME TiME iF iT WASNT MEANT T0 BE WHY W0ULD HE C0ME BACK AT ALL.i HAVENT SEEN HiM iN 2 WH0LE YEARS.i D0NT THiNK HES PLAYiNG WiT ME iM JUST C0NFUSED.ME AND MY CURRENT B0YFRiEND HAVE G0NE THREW iT ALS0.i USED T0 CRY 0VER DJ.BUT N0W THAT iM STARTiNG T0 TALK T0 ALEX AGAiN i D0NT FEEL LiKE DJ iS EVEN W0RTH iT ANYM0RE.WAT SH0ULD i D0 AB0UT THiS?

DJ iSNT A PLAYER HE JUS HAS A HARD PR0BLEM TRUSTiNG PE0LPLE.HES BEEN THREW THiNGS.BUT THAT MAKES US ARGUE ALL THE TiME.BUT THE SEX iS G00D.

AND ALEX iS A PLAYER(i TRULY ADMiT)BUT WHY W0ULD HE WAiST HiS TiME 0N TiME ME iF iT iSNT REAL.WE'VE NEVER HAD SEX.

Answer 1

Alex is no good..he is just using you until someone better comes along....the way you are treating DJ is not fair..you compare him to Alex and that is nasty..Alex WILL break your heart DJ wont..if you continue to mess DJ about you dont deserve him.

Answer 2

For starters, let's look at the facts. Alex, the boy you mentioned first, is a "player." If I understand correctly, the most you could expect out of him is a "friends with benefits" relationship. I know not how old you are, but you have to consider...is he really worth that? Is it the sex or the relationship you care about more?

And if it's the relationship, is it in terms of "you don't know what you'd do without him" or "he's Mr. Right Now AND Mr. Ever-ready"? My point is...is it really about the sex or the relationship (as already mentioned)?

You say you had a "huge crush" on Alex...was this puppy love? Or is it something you'd like to explore further? You say you "don't want to go back to all the pain." So, here's what I think...

Why do you want Alex so badly? Really think about this. If it's his body, sexual ability, charm, etc., you're wrong...and you may get hurt yet again. In VERY rare cases does it work out between people that are only physically attracted to each other.

There has to be more there than that. If not, obviously he's not good enough for you. Stay with DJ, then. But what's DJ like? Is he a "rebound," or for real? I think this is one you'll have to answer yourself, but given your "testimony," my money's on DJ.

E-mail me at [e-mail] if you want to talk about it.

Answer 3

You say your ex Alex was a player ? He had a girlfriend which he wouldnt dump soon enough? and now you have another boyfriend DJ who also is a player (kinda confused on the DJ situation.. but I will reply thinking he was player anyway) -

Seems to me like you should put both of them aside and reconsider your choice in boys next time... You maybe attracting this kind of men into your life... reconsider.. clean up and start fresh.

If either one of them loves you truly, they will be there when you finish with your soul searching, mind clearing experience.. and then you will see if that person belongs in your life or not..

Answer 4

First of all he is your ex for a reason right? But if you feel that strong about it what ever you do you have to tell your current boyfriend. Don't be the girl caught in the middle of love triangle it will not only hurt but it could make you look a little slutty (sorry). Just be upfront and truthful to them both and go from there. But whatever you do don't try and see both of them at the same time.

Answer 5

You already said Alex is a player. Is that the kind of guy you want permanently?

I say YOU are not ready for a relationship. Take your time. Alex may be good looking but he's not your perfect match. You can do much better.

Answer 6

dj and alex are both not worth is alex is just reasuring his game that he can get you now that he broke up with his girlfriend its alot easier to restart things with you than something else with another girl where it will take longer to get to know and if hes saying your sooo worth it then why didnt he break up with his girlfrend before what took him so long its a bunch of bull and if dj makes you cry hes not worth it either since no one should ever be worth your tears throw them both out the window both of these guys seem useless and just trying being single dont look for love because you will find it all the wrong places instead let it come to you

Answer 7

your ex is your ex for a reason, it hardly ever works out when you go back. the reason he was your ex in the first place will always be in the back of your mind.

My advice would be choose neither of them. You dont love DJ anymore and you said yourself that Alex is a playa so he'll more than likely hurt later on down the track.

Good luck

Answer 8

WOW! If you think that DJ is not worth it and want to be with the PLAYER Alex well go on but remember hes a player and you guys are long distance.

Answer 9

that is an easy answer, you have already choosen. stay with your new boyfriend, because you ex is your ex for a reason. ofcourse we will try to get with you now, he has nobody, he is lonely and need you right now, and then the pain will come back. so like i said, you have already choosen, and if you dont want your current man, be single, have fun, and do who you want and what you want.

Answer 10

an ex is and ex for a reason, player, stick with the new guy, long distance relationship take alot of work, alex probably couldn't handle it, since it took him so long to make up his mind anyway.