to a girl and broke it off a couple yrs ago, i've gotten to know him better as friends and we might start dating but do you think he's looking for something serious and I should stay away? I don't want to get married for a couple yrs yet....but don't want to freak him out by discussing this
2007-02-22 07:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by shine_on 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have to do with what you feel.
If you think you not ready then don't force yourself to be ready.
2007-02-22 07:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully it would take more than a couple years for him to decide that you're the one he wants to marry anyway... it should take some time to get to know a person enough to want to marry them. But a lot of people get married way before they know each other for 2 years and they're just fine.. my great aunt got married after she knew my uncle for only 2 weeks (I think) and they've been happy ever since. I'm engaged and it's been almost 5 years, haha..
If this is something that you think will be an issue, I would be upfront about it. Just wait until a good moment presents itself to talk about it, and then just say that you don't want to get married for a while... he should be able to understand, if he broke off an engagement. Good luck!
2007-02-22 15:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, take a breath. You aren't even dating and you're concerned about marriage? Try taking it one step at a time. If you date him and you like him, great. You can talk about marriage when your relationship is farther along.
If he asks you to marry him after the first couple of dates, run. But he may want to take it slow, too. Just because he was engaged once doesn't mean he wants to marry the next girl he sees.
2007-02-22 15:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him? You need to tell him so that way he can decide if he would like to move on or not. If you are ready for a serious relationship and he is, you might need to let him go. He might not want to wait a couple of years. Talk with him about that so he want feel like a fool if he decided to ask you to marry him.
2007-02-22 15:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down what are you really dating for, so that you can meet someone to spend the rest of your life with. You learn who you want to marry by dating someone. What I am trying to say is that he is probably looking for the same kind of relationship right now, but in the future that may change.
2007-02-22 15:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by j_n_js_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get to knw him better. If you knw him better as a friend, then let him knw you too as a friend's first. Later if the love is there it will be there too.
After that he will get to know you, what is yr intention, what is yr priority in life. Just be yrself, as a friend is better then as a gf.
2007-02-22 15:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am pretty sure that for how long you guy will be dating untill he ll pop the question, so he needs to get to know you as well, don't freak out and think that he wants to marry you right away.
2007-02-22 15:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it a shot do you really think hes ready for another serious relationship if he just got out of one. Good luck
2007-02-22 15:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even dating and you're thinking of discussing this? Back off. back way off. You will definitely freak him out.
Why don't you take things slowly with him and see where it goes? Why do ou even mention that he was previously engaged?
2007-02-22 15:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and you want a relationship with him, just let the relationship develop as it will. You aren't even dating yet--why are you worried about marriage!
2007-02-22 15:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋