Should I call her? Send roses? Ask her out for a romantic dinner?
Please don't judge me, I know I'm doing wrong, I just need help.
If you have to judge, then please abstain of answering. Thanks.
2007-02-22 07:07:15 · 12 answers · asked by Alan G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By lover I mean that she's married. I don't have a relationship at this time.
2007-02-22 07:14:48 · update #1
I assume you mean you're the "other man" or something, I'd say it depends on why "she" is cheating with you. What is she NOT getting at home? Is she missing the romance and all that, or is she needing to be the bad girl for a while? Find that out, then act accordingly. Be the romantic or be the dangerboy for her!
2007-02-22 07:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean your doing wrong? I dont get that or why anyone would judge you for asking that question I only say that because I dont feel your lack of self esteem here is justified so please relax is all, anyways your on the right track all those things are nice I would just also while in conversation with eachother pay attention to things she mentions that she likes to do or would like to do and find a way to maybe incorporate that into an activity or event, also be creative with your own desires for fun and see if the two of you find other unexperienced things to do that you might enjoy doing together and make a habit out of it. So basically is each of you as indaviduals some times and also as a couple this keeps everyone generally happy and also remember it is ok to do things on your own if intrest is there and the other person really doesnt like to do it, that helps with time apart well when living together and keeping yourself indavidually happy. This really all depends on how far you plan on going with this girl although even if marriage is not even in the mind yet all those things you do together will be a good experience either way reguardless of the end result so do it anyways I just mean that as your spending time together you'll begin to notice you guys as a couples closeness level and the depth of your love for one another if love is in the air yet and then you'll just find yourself wanting more in depth types of involvments with eachother and it will kinda just happen, so go with the flow as well. I personally would stay away from the bar or club sceenes for the most part or things that involve ill mannered activities if you want to keep your relationship sain and respectful although sometimes it seems thats all there is to do once your of age, for some people, again anyways goodluck Kim
2007-02-22 15:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "a lover"? Just fell in love for the first time or just made love for the first time? It makes a difference.
Either way, do what you are comfortable with-not what you think is the right "behavior". If you want to talk to her, call her. If you're hungry, ask her if she wants to get some dinner.
Just enjoy your time together, don't over think it. And don't ever think that asking for help is wrong!! Good luck!
2007-02-22 15:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have courage to ask for help, but you have cowardice to accuse all of trying to hurt you through judging harshly. Take the medicine. I'm here to help, along with those who provide positive answers as well.
There isn't a right or wrong way to be a romantic. Be attentive, charming and fun. Roses and gifts don't hurt, but if you're not Donald Trump's heir don't go overboard. Above all, be yourself. Faking it makes you like every player out there.
2007-02-22 15:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not doing wrong call her make sure shes interested talk about resterants then ask if she would like to go with u it kinda eases ur conversation into asking her and if u have fun on the first date and she seems like it to send her flowers with a cute little note that like sais i had a lot of fun i hope that u had fun to i hope im not rushing anything by asking u out on another date... then ask if she wants to go somewhere else like a movie or something
2007-02-22 15:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by blonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok don't go over the top. Its the best advice I can give. If you are too much she will get scared away. Definately call her. Thats very important and dinner would probably be good.
2007-02-22 15:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Starkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one should abstain. It's bad for the soul.
Explain why you know you are doing wrong. What are you doing wrong?
If you like this girl, spend time with her. Call her, talk to her, spend time with her. If she likes you, it won't matter where.
2007-02-22 15:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the above. You dont think calling soon after is going to make her feel like your too pushy do you? Cause I wouldnt agree w/ that thinking. But true you know her better than anyone on here thats forsure. Go at the speed thats going to please you.
2007-02-22 15:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do what you want to do. I'm not trying to be mean about it, but really that's the deal, if she likes roses and you feel like you'd like to brighten her day, send them. If you're thinking of her, call, etc.
2007-02-22 15:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you as a lover don't have nothing to do to gaing her she is the one that should do give and gaing you loving side so...You say you are he lover so you don't have nothing to gaing she does she is the one that need to do...
2007-02-22 15:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋