Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and we love each other. We argue sometimes but I feel this will be a good way to build our relationship. We have no children together, but we do plan on getting married one day, is this a good stepping stone, or should I not do this and wait till marriage. All opinions are welcomed. Thank you.
2007-02-22 07:02:17 · 9 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i've lived with my boyfriend since i was 17 we still aren't married and dont have any kids. it has been two years now. i think that it is better to live with someone before you get married. i mean you really dont know someone till you have lived with them. alot of people criticize my decision to live with him but i wouldnt change it for the world it has been the best experience. we do fight but everyone fights. you could live with someone for years and still fight. so no i dont think it is wrong.
2007-02-22 07:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by race queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many will say yes. But I betcha that most of us who are married for 5+ years say no.
Moving in together really isn't very useful as a prep for marriage. The dynamic and status of the relationship isn't the same, so the way you act and behave is different. Everything changes when you get married and a couple of years go by.
You really can't understand it until you have been there. I have - lived with my now-wife for 3 years prior to marriage, and it is not the same.
If you are committed enough to get married, just do it. No time like the present.
2007-02-22 07:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together does not necessarily imply sex, but it does imply a deeper commitment. I believe it's a good thing, the two find out what it's like to be with each other all the time, they find out habits that might be annoying (some that can be lived with and possibly others that might be dealbreakers), and it would to some extent give a preview of married life.
2007-02-22 07:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right to you.
Beware--you're going to get a lot of
"OMG YOUR SINNING AHHH YOU'RE GOING TO DIE CUZ THE BIBLE CONDEMS IT" answers.
If you decide you don't like it, then you can always get different apartments in the same apartment complexes, or something like that.
But, I think you'll like it. It'd be nice to not be alone every night and be with the person you love all the time.
You don't need a piece of paper (marriage license, which basically IS marriage) telling you that you love someone.
I'll be moving in with my boyfriend in 2 years :)
have a fun, happy, and spontaneous life!
2007-02-22 07:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by sheepeshlysheepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you guys plan on getting married within the next year or so I say stay put. You need your space and he needs his. You will have plenty of time to spend together when you guys are married. I say no just continue seeing him at his place and he seeing you at your place.
2007-02-22 07:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been living with my boyfriend of 2.5 years for 2 of those years. so I say yes, its all good! plus, it helps figure out who they really are as well. i think everyone should move in together before they marry-- just to make sure. :)
2007-02-22 07:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by SiC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel it is. You get to know the person even more by living together before marriage - I would say once your engaged to do this
2007-02-22 07:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as BOTH are consenting Adults? I highly recommend it! It is a very good, first step. Here's hopin' for a long future, together. Prayers are on their way!
2007-02-22 07:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I believe in living with that person before geting marry...
2007-02-22 07:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋