Yea, I was shocked at that. Then she complained about her husband numerous times...we had started talking over the phone during this time. I felt sympathetic and attached to her and I did not hold it against her that she lied to me for an extended period of time.
I told her a month ago that I will come and see her and everything was finalized. She recently told me that she is going to NC to see her husband...that did it for me..coz I really don't know what she wants from me then. I have since that day changed my phone number and blocked her at chat...that has given me relief.
I felt like she was using me..I am like a toy for her, or so it seems to me.
Why would someone play an emotional game like that..I am a guy and I feel cheated, humiliated and heart broken. What do you think? Speak freely....
2007-02-22 07:02:04 · 14 answers · asked by Han Solo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've met lots of men and women who are married who like the thrill of carrying on love affairs online b/c of the thrill of it and/or they have doubts about their current marriage and want to know that they still have backup plans if they ended their marriage.
It sucks that she wasn't a decent person. But at least now that you know the truth about her, you can move on.
2007-02-22 07:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by whattodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you heartbroken over someone that you have discovered that you've never really known. Little by little, she has lied and deceived you. She played emotional games because you let her.
You chose to believe the story she told you without taking the time to assess the facts. When you found out about the undercover kid, that should have made your spider sense tingle. Your lesson in this is to take the time to not only look at what a person says but what they do as well from now on. Leave her alone.
Let her know that her lies have destroyed any trust for her that you had...and without trust there is no relationship. Besides, you are comitting emotional adultery with a married woman. You don't wanna be that guy, do you??
2007-02-22 07:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like that happened to me really sorry.I think that she used you to feel better but thats what friend do. But of the way she treated you was like a boyfriend well unfortunally you were used but try to get over that cuz then you wont have a life and you will be in misery and thats not good my friend. Look another way maybe theres something else for you in the world. If you feel that you need to get it off youre chest buy a notebook and write all you feel inside and maybe you will feel better writing all those stuff. Remember a paper hold everything you write and doesnt have check spelling.I do it everytime. Wish this helped. Hope the best.
2007-02-22 07:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never get attached to someone that is married. You were cheated and you were a toy for her. She was probably very drawn to you because at the time she was unhappy in her marriage, but she just needed to get "you" out of her system. Also, with someone that is married, in the future, you can't let yourself be a rebound. Everyone needs time to heal from a serious relationship, even if they were the person that ended it. You have to have time to recoupe and relearn yourself, and who you are without that same person there. I'm sorry you got hurt though, it wasn't right for her to do that to you. She could have been honest with you, that would have been the humane thing to do. Remember though, what goes around comes around.
2007-02-22 07:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are having a rough time in their realationships and they don't know what else to do.So they find who ever they can get a use them to make them feel better about what is going on in their realtionship.I know it is hard but you shouldn't feel bad you should be happy that that happend so you can move on before something else happens, like being more attached ,that will make you feel ten times worse.People shouldn't do that to other people no matter how they feel so all I can tell you is to be more careful when you talk to someone like that again so you dont get hurt like you did this time.
2007-02-22 07:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, sometimes woman do need someone to talk too, someone that they did not knw, or someone that no one closed to her friends or relatives. They just need to express out what inside their feelings. Thats all. No need opinion or no need help at all. Thats what you feel about you been used for.
The truth is you are giving yr ears, maybe u one of the best listener to her. A good friend. She might love the husband, but she just cant say no to him. Thats why all these happening. Take it slow, just remember you helping someone that attached to you, dnt feel love attachment, please dnt, then you will get hurts, coz no matter how or what she will still love the husband. What she need is just yr ears.
2007-02-22 07:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freely? Ok well...honestly getting involved with someone who is not divorced usually ends in you being taken for a fool. She obviously isn't over her husband and is not in love with you so why are you bothering? Go catch a fish free of hooks darling!!!
Plus if she'll cheat (if she did?) on her husband WHY won't she cheat on you in the future?? It's tale as old as time people!
"She's different" "It won't happen to me"...IT ALWAYS HAPPENS!
2007-02-22 07:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you were used for a short period of time. um...i think the response that u have taken were well and she fooled you. sorry i couldn't think of anything else in my mind but i hope u like the feed back if i can remember something else to this question i will respond again.
2007-02-22 07:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answer first, and if the answering makes me think of or makes my day, then i will celebrity. i understand...it quite is choosy of me, sorry. o.o yet this sort I finally end up pointing my followers and contacts to the *sturdy stuff* you already know? ^__^ Or a minimum of i attempt to. yet have a celebrity besides purely for being affected person and know-how. ^_^
2016-12-17 16:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by dricketts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the eternal game of power over others
2007-02-22 07:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mark N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋