i might lose ex girlfriend i really like?

Question

i have been seeing this girl and we have been going out for about close to a year, but as relationships go, we argue and sometimes dont talk for to each other for a while, but about a month ago she said she wanted space, and i was cool with it, a month later, i started talking to another girl , when i talk on the phone with this new girl i feel her, just dont know if i am getting the same vibe from her, but we have been talking for about 2 wks, now my ex is calling me to get back together, but i just dont feel her anymore as much as i feel the new girl i am seeing now.

Do i tell my ex that is over and hope the new girl i am seeing works out ( the problem with the new girl is that she just broke up like 2 weeks when i started talking to her from a relationshiip that was like about 7 months old).

i know my ex gal loves me, but when you argue as much as we do over petty things, i just dont see a future where we wont be arguing with each other everytime.

Answer 1

Havent you heard argued like a married couple? ok well i know i cant really tell you what to do but look lets say you go out with the new girl, ok shes just broken up with a guy whose a big part of her life, she probably having heartache and needs someone to fill that void. and there you are, i mean if you decide to go out with her at least wait just a tad for her to grieve because coming from experience if you rush too fast into a relationship it wont last, you have to grieve to give their whole heart to them. you know?

ok sooo then if you go out with the old girl, what will happen, i mean you could just see how it works, and you probably dont feel as much 'fire' as you do with the new one because its new and fresh, its a guys mind that always wants something new and full of spark. but that only last for so long hun. and i mean every relationship has some arguing and if youve been going out for a while, its bound to have quit a few rocks. but do you love her? do you still like her?? you have to decide. but look maybe talk to her before you start back up with her, like tell her, i hate all the arguing we had, and if you want to get together that has to stop. just communicate. thats key. but anyways,
i hope this helps. i didnt mean to have a novel posted on here i just got carried away. sorry. hope you make a good choice hun!

Answer 2

I know that finding the right one can be hard sometimes and that at this point it would be easier to take the old girlfriend back because of the comfortable zone. ya know, but in this situation first off, i don't think you should take her back because SHE'S ready, i feel like you should take her back because you truly feel it, or what broke you up in the past, will break you up again, most likely. Now, as far as this new relationship goes, it is still too new to tell if she's a keeper, but if you're willing to give it a chance and it doesn't work out, then you shouldn't think about what you gave up with the ex, because that would be a sad excuse to have had a relationship at all. Besides that, what they say is that because you are now happy and full of love of some kind because of the new love, love in return is attracted to you, from the old love. The law of attraction. So when you are in love, you attract love, which explains why women and men are attracted to married people. You've heard of that right? How you always want what you can't or don't have. Sometimes we can love someone, and they can love us back, but that doesn't mean that we can live together or that we were meant to be together. Think it over and don't SETTLE, which is what it sounds like you may be doing if you go back to the ex.

Answer 3

if you dont see a future with her there is not point in keeping her around. try things out with this new girl. do you really want to waste more time with your ex knowing that you guys are jsut gonna argue and you will be hurt? It sounds like you and your ex are not good together. so see how things go with his new girl.

Answer 4

hey...i have a great guy friend going thru the same thing right now...and i'm feeling what you're going thru because of him. i think you should be honest with your ex...don't let her think there's something there if you really don't feel it. it's going to be hard for her to hear--i've been that girl! but now i've moved past it and realize it was for the best anway.

just don't hang on to the ex thinking the new thing might not work out...you owe yourself time to figure things out with this new girl. if you feel something for her, i think it's worth the time invested.

good luck to you.

Answer 5

seems you just answered your own question. I know how hard it is caring about 2 ppl and not knowing who to choose. I would try to see how the new girl your starting to feel goes, but it's really up to you and if you still not sure ask yourself who do i think could work better who do i care for more. Follow your heart it will guild you

Answer 6

I think you should do what makes you happy even if it means hurting the one that loves you. You don't have to be with her she may feel hurt but you don't want to continue a relationship with her if all y'all do is argue so really think about its your happiness or your patients.

Answer 7

Dont go back with her she tried to seperate and she got wut she wanted. If the new girl doesnt work out you can always find another. Just dont rub it in your exs face that you got a new girlfriend. Dont try to keep dead things

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Answer 9

She is not that into you. You are not the one for her at this time in her life. Move on and find someone who will reciprocate your feelings.