I have Something I need to Say. It's about weight, life, and something you should know.?

Question

I am 13 years old and i am very skinny. i have never had and never will have an eating disorder, but i feel very self-conscious about my appearence. I am often teased about being skinny, and even my friends tell me things like "you're abnormally skinny" and make references to me such as "toothpick" and "stick".

I eat and exercise normally but I don't gain weight. the way i look stings a lot when i am reminded of it. Clothes never really fit me right. My friends, being normal schoolgirls, of course, constantly complain about the way they look. they always tell me how they are "too fat" or that they think they are ugly. when i tell them i am self-conscious about being very skinny, they dissmiss it. Apparently, it is more troubling to think you are fat.

I want everyone to know that people who are very skinny face the same self-doubt as those who think they are fat. Think about that the next time you make assumptions or a joke about the girl who is skinnier and bonier than most.

Answer 1

I feel like I can really relate to you. At 16, I'm still a little underweight, and I do have a lot of issues with the way I look and fit in clothes. I feel like I've always been self-conscious about by weight and I still try to gain weight by eating a lot. Don't worry, I've been called "toothpick" and laughed at because of my "chicken legs" Just hang in there, because as you get taller and stop growing height-wise, you probably will start appear to gain weight. It's funny though, because I just came back from shopping for a pair of formal black pants, or trousers and I came home feeling frustrated because none of the clothes fit right. I finally bought a pair from the kids section, size 14 girls, but they still are a little baggy where they shouldn't be.

I've also expressed to my friends how it is also hard for me to find clothes because I don't fit into them and they usually roll their eyes or say "boo hoo" sarcastically, and it always gets me so frustrated because they don't understand how much I strive to be a normal weight.

There was also a time when a girl that worked at some body shop was talking to her friend, saying loudly how some girls should just go eat a cheesburger or something. She sort of rolled her eyes toward me, it was so obvious that she was directing that comment towards me. I felt like screaming that just because I am skinny, doesn't mean that I starve myself.

Try to ignore these comments and opinions and just wait until you get older. I hope somehow my opinions and experiences helped by letting you know there are other people who feel the same way. It sure made me feel better after reading your opinion after this stressful day of shopping. Thanks!

Answer 2

Feel Better? Welcome to being a teenager.

Glad you got a backbone and will stand up. But lets not take life SO seriously okay. People often point to others because it is easier than looking at themselves. Its not really the "look" that make upset its the emotions they have about it.

At 13 your body is just starting to grow and you have another 10 years a head of you. So be wise and eat well for you.
There is no such thing as a "average or normal" school girl, so that should ease your mind.

Here in the real world, nothing "off the rack" or in a store fits you, its not supposed too really, every article of clothing in my home is altered to fit me. Its every age dear.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

Since it seems that 80% of teen girls think that they are too fat- there's probably a bit of resentment when they look at you and tease you about being skinny- but really, it's not an insult. It's envy.

Take it in stride. Every teenager feels self conscious about their body. And- the more attractive they are...typically the more self-conscious they feel.

You're doing great. (and I'll bet you get a few curves in the next few years).

Answer 4

Honey, it is just part of growing up, I was very skinny when I was that age and I could eat what I wanted and not gain a thing. Your body metabolizes (breaks up) food differently than others. It is nothing you should be ashamed of, but keep eating healthy and excerising because when you get older you may not metabolize food that quickly and getting in healthy lifestyle habit now will benefit you for the rest of your life!

Answer 5

I was a lot like you when I was 13, trust me, give your body a few more years and you'll 'fill out'.

You'll probably always be thin, but as you get a little older you will get some shape to your body and clothing WILL start to fit better. Everyone has awkward growning and body image moments. I know what its like to be self conscious about your body and you are young, so its very hard on you but as the years go on you'll realize that looks aren't everything and you'll learn to love yourself.

No matter what the size is, there are things people don't like about their body. I don't single people out or pick on them, we are who we are.

Answer 6

Skinny or fat or in-between we all have some self doubts of one kind of another. If you are healthy & comfortable with yourself, don't let what others say bother you. Just be yourself. My daughter's friend is very slender at 28 and has been slim all her life. She's a beautiful young lady & can wear any style. Most of the other girls envy her. You'll be just fine. Just hold your head up high & ignore the name calling. Your beautiful as you are.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I completely understand where you're coming from, and as long as your health is well you are fine. Body image IS a big deal in junior high and high school, but know that your body is still developing, so don't feel bad about it. It's normal to feel conscious at this age.

Just make sure you maintain a healthy diet and exercise regularly.

:)

Answer 9

Don't worry about it. I was like that at 13 too, very skinny and tall.
I filled out a bit, still slimmer that most, but I look healthy now, and all my friends are jealous. You'll grow up to be comfortable with yourself, and be the one enjoying good food while all your friends are dieting! :)

Answer 10

I'm sorry sweetie - you're right and your friends are being very inconsiderate. Hang in there, 13 is a rough age and people are meaner at this age than they ever will be again so it will get better. Try to remember that you are perfectly designed by God and ignore your "friends" harsh comments.