she never invited me to her birthday party (would a 25 year old have one). we kind of are casual friends, but i have feelings for her. in the past i've tried to show my affections and all she does is grunts and sighs (why does she do this). i am not talking to her for a very good reason! i am trying to keep the peace. i've only really known her from the college were i am doing a course. the truth! i've been studying at the same place for a few years now and i've got to know this girl well enough to know that we both like each other, but the feeling is muted. when both people parties are sometimes shy towards one another, does this mean there is a slight chance of the two of you sharing the same attraction. i think so, because there is also, the odd look of affection, the odd touch, smiling & laughing, postive energy and a high level of being positive.
what do you guys think
2007-02-22 06:57:34 · 10 answers · asked by rjhamuk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she does not feel the same way about you as you do about her which is why she grunts/sighs when you come on to her. the reason she laughs and jokes is because when you do not act like a love sick puppy she relaxes and treats you like a normal human being. Find someone real to make a relationship with - come out of the fantasy world.
2007-02-22 07:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with a boy I used to be good friends with. I really liked him, and I think he really liked me, but then we moved on to separate courses, but at the same college. We see each other around, but it's not the same as it would be if we were going out. I think the problem was that because we were friends first, there was never anything to give us a 'push' to make the first move.
You need to tell her how you feel, and if she grunts or sighs then maybe she is just too shy and doesn't know what to day. There's always the possibility that she thinks you are not serious- some guys think its really funny to get a girl to admit that she likes them, and then tell her the whole thing is a joke.
Maybe you should try just asking her out directly, and if she turns you down, you need to accept that your relationship is never going to go any further, and stop torturing yourself over it.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-22 07:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Annabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the feeling is mutual? Grunts and sighs usually mean a girl is not interested. Could you be reading too much into her looks and laughter?
Another thing- you're in college and are refusing to speak to a girl because she didn't invite you to her birthday party? Are you serious?
Either grow up, ask her out, or get over it!
2007-02-22 07:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should've invited you. But the silent treatment is the most cruel form of punishment. I think you should grow up and talk to her your relationship instead of acting like a second grader and ignoring her. You should tell her happy birthday and make her feel extra guilty about not inviting you.
2007-02-22 07:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you dnt treat her as a friend, so as her. So its ok. I think she wont release that you did that.
If you wanna get close with her again, try to be intro yrself back, be nice and act like a friend not like a jerk.
2007-02-22 07:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be a man, and make a move. No easy answer or solution. Good luck. Ask her to coffee, ice cream, lunch, a movie... something, anything! Good luck!
2007-02-22 07:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there if the feelings are real she will let you know when the time is right
2007-02-22 07:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by mryburkhart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reading the wrong signs and she is putting you right.But your
still not seeing that.You sound like you could be stalking.
2007-02-22 07:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Butt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so confused? you love her it obvious get off your butt put you ego down and go make up before you loose her . run run
2007-02-22 07:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋