yesterday i told my boyfriend that i wanted to cut out all sexual activities from our relationship because i wanted to get to know him first. He got madd at me but then he said it was my decision and whatever i say goes. well usually he would call me every morning but today i didnt recieve a phone call from him. do you think he's still mad at me? and do you think he will ever get over the fact that we're not going to be sexual anymore. plsz help
2007-02-22 06:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he is still upset with you and no he probably won't get over the fact that you're not going to have sex anymore...unless he loves you. But I'm not sure he doesn't as he's already changed his behavior based on the fact that he's not "getting any" from you anymore. Deciding to abstain from sex after already engaging in sexual intercourse is like trying to lift weights without using steroids after having used them for a long period of time. Understand this...ABSTAINING FROM SEX IS NOT A BAD THING. Your reason couldn't be more valid. However, you're going to have to understand that once a guys has sex with you, he will expect it until the relationship is over. If he doesn't get it from you, he WILL get it from another girl...I guarantee it.
Good for you for abstaining from sex. But next time, let the guy know up front you're not having sex with him straight away. If he's a dog, he'll leave, if he's a good guy, he'll stick around. Good luck with the next one!
2007-02-22 07:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you made a major mistake, you can't give a kid candy, take it back & then not expect for them to cry about it. Yeah he's going to be a salty about it for a while but if he really cares about you he'll understand. And for future reference have the, "I want to get to know you better" conversation before you have sex. Sometimes it's hard to turn a booty call into a serious relationship.
2007-02-22 06:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by geminig 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would've chose to get to know him in the beginning before the sexual stuff happened, and now with you cutting it off, he's probably feeling confused and thinking you are not interested since typically thats the first thing that stops when a relationship becomes doomed. i would just explain to him that you felt like you moved to fast in the beginning and would like to slow down and little and make sure he knows its not because your not intersted and if in fact you aren't any longer you need to be upfront and honest with him so there wont be any hard feelings down the line.
2007-02-22 06:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what kind of guy he is, but I know lots of guys (and girls) who would stay mad until they get some. But if you are serious about wanting to know him better first, don't stress out about him being mad at you. If he can't respect your sexual wishes, then he's not the one for you.
2007-02-22 06:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by whattodo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you think?!!! Are you crazy? Of course he's mad - what man wouldn't be. He will not get over not having sex - your idea was incredibly stupid....sorry. If I was him the last thing you'd see on me was my butt going out the door not to return even if you said you'd have sex again.
2007-02-22 06:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um you def have a suitable to be mad. If he desires to be in a courting with then you he must be commited to you and in simple terms you. no longer off flirting with different females and sitting with them at lunch. tell him the way you feels and if he does not substitute then in line with hazard hes in simple terms no longer for you. reliable good fortune!
2016-10-16 06:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I TOLD MY EX BOYFRIEND THE SAME THING. EVEN THOUGH HE DID NOT CALL YOU, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT HE IS MAD AT YOU. GUYS TAKE IT AS SAYING THAT YOU NEED TO NOT BE ALL UPUNDER EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME. SINCE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE INVOLVED SEXUALLY. (THAT IS THE ONLY WAY THEY THINK WE CAN REALLY CONNCET) IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL UNDERSTAND TRUST ME. IF HE IS MAD HE WILL GET OVER IT BUT IT WILL TAKE TIME. I HOPE IT GOES WELL WITH YOU ALL.
2007-02-22 07:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by passion4fashion07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is definitely vex ,if you made this decision on your own he will act really cold with you and he will never get over it.the only way to reconcile is to bring back the sexual stuff.plus i believes that this only brings you closer
2007-02-22 07:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by clint n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he realy cares for you he will respect your disesion. So stick to your guns. Wait and see if he calls you will know if he dosn't you are better off without him. Good for you to decide to wait ,I wish more young people would do that.
2007-02-22 06:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by mryburkhart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL, he sounds as tho he will look else where 4 sex. HE probably thinks your mad at him.
2007-02-22 06:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋