Does anyone see it being wrong being with someone that is 7-12 years older or younger then your own age? I'm not talking about your being 20 and the other being 80, but being 18 and the other person being 31.
2007-02-22 06:51:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby, at 25 i married a 41 year old.
well without getting into my life's story.
i just got done with a 52 year old. and i'm 30. so whatever you are into.
age is only a number if it doesn't hold you back
the last guy i spoke of, didn't have time or energy (head out of gutter) to keep up with a chick 21 years younger than him.
so while it can be good/great. it can be a total disaster, because a younger person might want to have fun, and the older one is settled down. or having kids. or marriage.
lots of differences... but i tend to like them older than me, and if they can't bend than i will break them (LOL)
2007-02-22 06:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess the reason you're asking this is either.
A. Because YOU are the person with the hang up about the age difference and want some sympathetic responses to be able to support your own decision.
B. Someone close to you is giving you a hard time about it or you're worried about what OTHER people think about this.
Either way, you're the person that has to deal with the relationship and the resulting discrimination and fallout from the relationship. So the decision is yours on the right/wrong of the difference in age. But, in the long run it'll mean nothing! I know that's hard to believe when you're young..
So, realistically, what is the difference between 2 years and 30 years when you're both going to be old and ugly anyway? :)
As long as you have that emotional and MENTAL connection, the difference in your ages means very little if nothing at all later down the road.
I'd say the real issue is dealing with whomever is pressuring you on the issue... make sure if it's a friend or someone that cares about you that they understand you expect emotional support from them as your friend no matter what your dating situation is!
If you're worried about society's viewpoint... it's varied. If it's the WOMAN that's older.. then the guy is lucky and everything is great! If it's the MAN that's older then all the sudden people want to point self-righteous fingers and accuse people of indecent things. (also something to consider)
Good luck!
2007-02-22 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Scallawag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
18 and 31 is a bit of a stretch because there really isn't too much you can have in common although I was involved with someone who was in his early 40's when I was 19. One being the 18 year old can't accompany the 31 year old to bars or anything like that and if the 31 year old supplies alcohol to the 18 year old, they can be charged with a crime. I have a very old soul and suprisingly we had a lot in common and liked a lot of the same things. We are still friends to this day 20 years later and I deeply value that.
2007-02-22 07:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kind of because at 18 you're not mature enough. and part of becoming mature is making mistake and learning from them. its better to be with someone close to your own age...lets say not more than 5 or 6 years younger or older because then they are not too ahead of you and you can teach each other things and still have someone who is a bit more mature. being with someone whose 31 while you're still 18 is a stretch because the older one will most likely be in charge and want different things in life like marriage, kids, meeting their goals in life, which may be something to do w/ their jobs. its just better to go for someone closer your age.
2007-02-22 06:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by parveeahmed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what you have in common, other than hormones at this point. A 31 year old has very different life experiences from an 18 year old. If you have similar tastes in entertainment, hobbies and life goals, it may work out. However, understand the odds are heavily against it.
2007-02-22 07:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Crossed Sabers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 and 31 is a pretty big gap. Any 31 year old guy wanting to date a 18 year old girl is either a child molester trying to get a girl as young as possible but still stay within the law or is just taking advantage of you for sex.
2007-02-22 06:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is love in the relationship, there's no reason you should hold back just because others don't approve. If she makes you happy, go for it because you will be kicking yourself in the butt later for being so stupid if you don't take the opportunity and see where the relationship goes.
"It's all so overrated in not saying how you feel. So you end up watching chances fade and wondering what's real."
Think Ashton and Demi. People were grossed out in the beginning, but they are beginning to realize that love is love and you can't change who you fall in love with.
2007-02-22 06:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the maturity level is there and you both are comfortable with the situation then there is no problem. I am 43 years young and my fiance is 26 year young. Fortunately for me he's an old soul, anything less than that I don't have time to raise again.
2007-02-22 06:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 42 and have asked myself the same question, i dont see anything wrong with it, and there are those who think the older guy is just an old pervert looking for a young one not true, But the older woman and a younger guy is accepted, go figure,
2007-02-22 06:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with that if you really love the person, then there shouldnt be an age limit....I myself am 18 and I am pretty much in a relationship with a 28 year old..... the thing is us girls dont really want immature *** little boys. real men know what theyre doing.....ya know?
2007-02-22 07:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki Andrews 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋