...Him to marry me but i dont want to scare him or make him think im trying to rush him...what do i do i love him so much and theres not a moment that i dont think about him...how do i go about asking if i do...and should i i mean we are serious but i dont want to scare him off.
2007-02-22 06:44:20 · 11 answers · asked by tweety_172004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
did i mention we've been together 4 years.
2007-02-22 06:49:03 · update #1
i cant take being away from him..hell be in california while...im in chicago.
2007-02-22 06:59:07 · update #2
opops...it is him thats leaving...he said hes joining for us....he said hes joining so one of us can have a career because i just work at old navy...but what does for us mean?
2007-02-22 07:05:22 · update #3
Make sure he is serious bout u 1st and then talk to him bout being together forever... Good Luck!!!
2007-02-22 06:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him about "us." Ask him if he plans on getting married to you in the future. And tell him you aren't trying to rush things, you just want to know. Tell him you care a lot about him, and that you can see yourself marrying him. If he says he does plan on marrying you, then you can ask when. I wouldn't pop the question unless you have already talked about marriage. Good luck! My husband and I got married almost two years ago and have only been together for 10 of those months. He's in Kuwait with the Army, so I know how you feel. It does make it better being married though. Even though we are apart, we still have that support from each other. Things will work out for you, and I'm sure you'll be happy.
2007-02-26 14:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Laela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say bring up the subject of marriage but don't out and out ask him to marry you. I think you will definitely scare him off because he'll think you are trying to "tie him down" so that he's not free when he leaves - otherwise, why not wait til he comes home? If it's been 4 years and he's not gone anywhere yet and if it's real love and meant to be, it will keep until he returns. What are your real fears? Do you think YOU need marriage in order to wait for him? Or wait, I'm assuming it's HIM that's going away, you could very well be the one going away and if that's the case, then he'll think you are asking him to marry you so that HE waits for you to return. Either way, it sounds as if you are pushing marriage out of fear and not love. Fear that if whomever is going away, the other one won't wait. If it's meant to be it will be - no amount of time or space will change it. In summary, if you want to ask him, it's your choice, but I would tell him what your fears are and talk with him about marriage - not ask him. Good luck on whatever you decide.
2007-02-22 15:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't ask him to marry you , sweet but let him do the Honor of asking you . I'll tell you what you can do is go out and buy you and him a promise ring and say a vow before placing it on his finger . Then say these rings are not to be moved from our fingers until we are married and then we place it on our neck . Something like that may get him to think more of marriage . GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-02-22 14:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are 19 yeas old and you haVe so much of your life ahead of you. i am married 21 and my husband is 29. however marriage is hard work and sometimes changes the relationship. i think you should wait and see how the time apart affects you and it will tell you alot about the relationship his love for you and your love for him just by not seeing one another. time apart if you love someone usually makes the heart grow fonder. marrage is hard work thats why 50 percent end in divorce. TAKE YOUR TIME!!!
2007-02-22 19:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by AMGER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are probably tired or hearing this but, you are still so young to be worried about marriage. Be patient and let him ask you. He's going into the Marines, that's enough on his mind for now. Just be the supportive girlfriend in his corner and always there for him.
2007-02-22 14:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young still, and basic training does change people, my nephew was a sweet heart before he went into the training, never cheated on his gf while down there he cheated on her and before they went into training they were talking about marriage
i don't mean to scare you, but things to think about, specially once they are able to leave base, wait and see how he is when he gets back
2007-02-22 15:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 19. Don't be in such a hurry to get married. You have your hold life ahead of you.
2007-02-22 14:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty wait until he gets out of basic training...that can change a person. Be there for him and see how things go when he gets home.
2007-02-22 14:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you really love him and you KNOW he loves you then go for it and ask him! The worse thing that could happen is that he says no. But if he does say no then you'll know where you two stand!
Good luck!
2007-02-23 00:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋