My ex is filing for an Enforcement Order to physically take my daughter during his visitation. Let me clarify that I have NEVER denied him seeing her EVER.HE refused to visit for 3 years, until September when there was an order, 1 week after my daughter turned 3. He is suppose to have her according to the order 12-5 unsupervised now. She refuses to go with him. She will throw a fit (vomiting). He doesn't interact with her at all when he had supervisied visits. He has also stated that he doesn't want to take her if she isn't ready to go. I asked him to come at 1pm and let her warm up to him then try to take her, he hasn't ever tried that. Last weekend he brought his ex & heir daughter to my house & started interacting with my daughter never has before.He is in a messy custody battle with this same ex over their child I asked him to leave & come alone next time & interact. I know I was wrong. Now he is filing an Order & comtempt of court. I want her to go, but she doesn't. What do I do?
2007-02-22 06:41:15 · 8 answers · asked by Spring loaded horsie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you should get in contact with your lawyer and bring these concerns up with him. maybe some counsling will help your daughter something could be happening with her and her father that is causing her to not want to go with him. no one wants to think that but that could be whats wrong...
2007-02-22 06:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by mj14_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the judge to either resupervise the visits, or to have a visit in the courtroom to observe how the two interact, I know that this may sound terrible but you could also call social services (dyfs) and explain to them the situation. They will supervise the visits in a local but public place to make the child feel more at home. Is there an organization called catholic charities near you? (they are not catholic churches) This organization does everything, they are wonderful they will supply a sfe and nurturing environment indoors when necessary, a park type environment when exceptable and even take them out for pictures, mc donalds, or a local mall or shopping chuckie cheeses etc. Remember the 12-5 does not inclued the other ex's child though nor the childs parent, but if you had asked for supervised visits it could envolve the two children seeing each other which will be better for your daughter in the long run as she is a half sister. Simply explain this to the judge. Get paperwork from the visit supervisor staing that she wouldnt interact as well. maybe even video tape a visit (not including the other child) prove to the judge this is the best decision for the child and not for yourself, as that is what the visits are for, to be in the BEST INTEREST of the CHILD and noone else. I hope that you are able to find the information that you are looking for. GOodluck and goodnight/morning LOL
2007-02-26 03:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by lorileeandme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe a court ordered unsupervised visitation after he hadn't seen her for 3 years. If she's only 3 (3 and a half?), that's most of her life. She doesn't even know him. I can only imagine my kids' reactions if I told them to go off with a stranger, which is basically what she's being asked to do. If he really cared about her, he wouldn't want to force her and cause her the mental anguish. Talk to a lawyer, and have your daughter evaluated by a counselor. If you can prove that this is causing your daughter harm, you will have more pull in court.
2007-02-22 15:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard and painful for all involved, but specially the child and you as well because you are the one that stay with the child after all these chaos. Please I know this is hard but think of the child first. Do not use the child against the father, if you do it will come back and bite you. If you love your child help her, talk to her about her dad. Invite dad to come and have a family event together, friendship can be involved between the both of you. If you and your ex can not be friends, good friends, the relationship between your daughter and the two of you is destined for failure. Pray as well. That helps more than you know.
2007-02-22 14:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by iraqidesertmp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something a social worker needs to get involved in. They need to see how the child is responding to her father.. this can scar her later on. I would call the lawyer and see what he can do and have them monitor this. Your ex doesn't seem to have the nuturing feel to him and this is not good for any of his children. Tell him to think about the child's feelings not his own and he is going to have to make an effort.. not just pop up take her and then expect things to work out from there.. maybe he yelled at her to be quiet when they were alone and she does not like him for that. Children sense things better than we adults do.
2007-02-22 14:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! you should protect your daughter. Ask the court to have someone present when your daughter is acting like this. There's definitely a reason, and the court needs to see it first hand! If you have to call dept. of children services for advice. Good luck!
2007-02-22 15:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by robbie d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is a court order then there is nothing you can do you just have to let him take her during the visitation and if u act like u dont like him the child will sense that and wont want anything to do with him.. and its either that or he will have ur daughter permenantly
2007-02-22 14:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dclp8204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to go don't make her, and ask her why. hopefully their is no bad reason. he sounds a little mixed up, he wont interact on supervised visits??? hmmm... hope that helps
2007-02-22 14:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋