my guy friend and I got physically involved a few times. We both know that it was a mistake and continued to be friends. He doesn't live around here, so we talk online and on the phone a lot. It is pleasant conversation.Then when he came to visit, we hung out and he seemed nervous around me, and it was awkward. We ended up hookingup. Afterward we agreed we cannot do it anymore and i went on about how we're just friends. he seemed hurt, but said he agreed. we continue to talk and one day i said i was starting to like him more than a friend and was getting relationship ideas & thought he should know. He got very defensive and kept saying he didn't like me that way and he didn't want a relationship and we are just friends. I said that is fine, i just had to tell him the truth, and i still want to be friends. then we went back to talking like friends but he seems mad and is acting so (passive aggressively) while insisting hes OK. I think he's upset. WHY? does he even KNOW if he is upset?
2007-02-22 06:23:19 · 4 answers · asked by jennykolletti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when we talked about this, i said i am okay with being friends, and he kept saying that I wanted more and he didn't know what to say and he didn't know what I wanted to hear. I said he didn't have to say anything because i was only telling him to inform him, and I still want to be just friends. We went back to being friends, but NOW he is acting very strangely and I can tell but he insists he's okay and that I am paranoid. He is clearly acting different so i dont' know what his problem is. Can any one (guys preferably) tell me what he might be thinking and why he is being a little baby now?
2007-02-22 06:26:54 · update #1
He probably thinks that you are the one that doesn't know what they want since you told him no and now u are telling him yes. He proably doesn't trust you or thinks you are a flake.
Or maybe he's upset because he wanted 2 be friends with benefits but now he thinks you are pushing a relationship on him.
I think you need to figure out what u really want first then find out if he wants it too and if not too bad because you already did it so there's no going back to the way it was.
2007-02-22 06:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by kyla_bean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be the guy you are wanting a relationship with does not want one for the fact that he might be ready or something happened in a past relationship that has him kind of scared to date again. Just be friends with him because that is what he wants and does not want you to push the envelope or you will drive him away as a friend and then you will not know what to do. Maybe his anger and the behavior is because you want the relationship and he does not, Since you have tried it a few times being more then friends knowing that he has not worked out then you need to accept it and move on, he is telling you he is ok because he does not want you to have know that something is wrong just let him be and cool off because the more you push the angerier he is going to get and you don't want to lose him as a friend.
2007-02-22 14:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he used you for sex and was "friendly" to you so he could keep getting laid. Now that you're trying to act like girlfriend-material, he's not interested and wants you to take a hike. You acted like a skank and while he doesn't mind doing it with a skank, he doesn't want a skank for a girlfriend.
2007-02-22 14:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing head games!
Your try to have your cake and eat it to and it never works!
2007-02-22 14:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋