Being with a man who is adicted to video games,loves to drink pespi and eat chocolate all the time like a drug feen,does not hear you when you speak to him,never gives me a hug,or is there in time of need,only wants to grab the private areas when he wants it...Of course I refuse for some time now.Can anyone give me some advice? I am so depressed and feel very neglected.
2007-02-22 06:21:58 · 14 answers · asked by sweeeetypie55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Question - Have you have talked to him about his behavior?
Maybe he just don't know how irritiating he is being toward you.
Don't allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are. So, if you have to, let him hit the door. I don't know what all is involved in you all's relationship, but it seems that he is being unfair with his time and attention toward you.
As a woman we need time, love and attention, so if you all don't get something resolved you will end up cheating trying to find love somewhere else.
Let him know that you deserve more and demand that he gives it to you, or you are gone.
And yes the relationship does sound unhealthy, but there are always two sides to every story.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-22 06:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let this person know that under no certain terms that if it is a casual relationship you can deal with that. Let the person know that you don't expect a huge commitment from them but you do expect respect. By that I mean you have to let your head do the talking. Set up some ground rules. Like you could say " when I don't hear from you for a while it makes me worry." If they are worried you are getting too close just tell them that you worry because you care about them. One "rule" could be that if he is seeing someone else or needs some space to let you know that and that way you will not worry or wonder. All this is doing is killing your self esteem and confidence. If you set some kind of boundaries which I think are very important especially in a casual relationship. You must protect yourself first. That means being true to you and it is o.k to tell who ever you are with what your feelings are and what your expectations are. If they can't at least give you the courtesy of a phone call or text message when they are otherwise busy then they aren't even worth worrying about. You are number one. Never forget yourself. It is easy to get lost in a casual relationship
2016-05-23 23:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commnication is the key. You have to tell him how you feel about the situation he my not know how much you are hurting if you don't come out and tell him. The video games although it can be a problem think of it this way at least he is at home and not running the streets. Now if he can't talk to you and show you any attention due to he video games then yeah that's a problem. But don't get too upset cause it's a simple solution TELL HIM HOW YOU
FEEl.
2007-02-22 06:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to turn off the video games, take away the pepsi and the chocolate, sit him down and make sure he hears you. Tell him how you feel about it all and if it doesn't change, you need to move on. I wasted 11 1/2 yrs on one person thinking things would change, don't take that much time away from yourself....you can't get it back!
2007-02-22 06:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me start by saying I have been with the same guy for 6 years and the kind of relationship you're in is very unhealthy, you're allowing this guy to use you for when he needs you. Trust me get out of it if you are deppressed and upset it's definitly not a good thing. People don't change unless they want to.
2007-02-22 06:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by shadegirl15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking if this is a BAD situation. If all your guy does is drink pepsi and eat chocolate and play games. 1st he does not care about him because he is killing himself slowly so how can he care about you? you have to love you before someone else can. if he is negelecting your needs and your feelings then he definetly DOES NOT APPRECIATE YOU!!!!!
2007-02-22 06:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Friday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is no good for you, and probably no good for anyone else. Try to break away from him, don't take his calls and just avoid him. Talking to his kind may make him angry. The relationship is destructive more than unhealthy.
2007-02-22 06:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's not a man. that's a teen mind in a man's body and he shouldnt be married. youre his plaything and his mother.
you must have liked his 'immaturity' in the beginning. you made a wrong decision in thinking he would suddenly become a grown up.
yeah, its unhealthy. advice? dont have children. peace
2007-02-22 06:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has a personality disorder. If you really like him, stay, but put your foot down.
Might be time to take a step away from the relationship though.
2007-02-22 06:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anotherme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to found a man who will appreciate you not have you around whenever he wants. Trust me . . I've been in your situation. It's not a healthy relationship!
2007-02-22 06:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋