hey all so...i work at tesco and have done for agessss.i met this guy,a customer,we went out as mates for a wee while and got on really well.the other week he took me out and we held hands and ended up kissing.i came home feeling all warm inside and wanted more than friendship.until i found out about his 'secret' girlfriend.I emailed him saying he was cheating and he has since sent me a load of abuse.Calling me names and saying i'm easy,when i have only had sex ONCE in my life.Is that easy???
But i find myself so bloody angry yet still missing his friendship,i dont understand.
2007-02-22 06:15:43 · 24 answers · asked by Jessica D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he may be a good guy to hang around with, but he's deceptive, abusive, and way too quick to insult. He's not a positive influence in your life, despite the good times.
I think you need to separate yourself from him ASAP.
(No, having sex one in your life is not "easy," but when guys grasp for insults the first thing they do it call a girl loose.)
2007-02-22 06:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear Ur tale of friendship and the loss.Don't beat yourself up, ur not easy by any means whether u have slept any one, no one or every one, it is sooo dame easy to cast names when some one has just been caught out, he is prob more angry at him self for getting caught out, be lucky that Ur not the girlfriend i would say as u don't know how many time he has had lets say private friends that r girls.It must hurt losing the friendship but what kind of friend does that, try to forget about him, be nice if u see him but do go out with him even if it is friends, he had his chance now he has blown it,the best revenge is life for any one is to see some one they care about getting on in life, love Ur self Hun.xx
best of luck in the future and if u find the right one ask if he has a brother for me!!! hee hee
2007-02-22 06:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by littlemermaid_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you get yourself worried and angry over a cheating prat like that, instead feel sorry for his girlfriend. you can do a lot better that being second best to some poor sod, he is sending you nasty stuff, because its getting to close for comfort and the prat is scared in case he gets caught out, you go and find a good guy that will treat you right, and next time he comes into tesco, hit him with a bloody orange or something, the animal, and you take care x
2007-02-22 06:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by honey xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy sounds like a real jerk...you are better off without him. I would block his name from your email you do not need those nasty notes to keep bringing up your anger. Write it off to experience and move on. He will probably "play this game" with someone else soon and hopefully leave you alone.
Good luck.
Oh and men quite commonly accuse women of being easy when they DO NOT have sex with that woman as by calling her names it seems to help their "bruised" ego. Don't let his stupid remarks bother you. YOU know who you are.
2007-02-22 06:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by healthynow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, what a loser. i cant think of any reasons why you would be missing his friendship? surely you've got nicer 'friends' than that!! no darling, your not easy by having sex with just one person, and besides, who the hell is he to say things like that? he was all lovey dovey when he thought he was getting away with seeing two girls at the same time, and now hes been caught out he doesn't like it. Men, 'eh? id say your better off without him chick. plenty more fish and all that!
2007-02-22 06:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lifes hard but i think hes only calling you names because he got caught he dosnt know you and it took him long enough to get a kiss out of you trust me hes not worth your time although you want to be around him and miss his company you will come to realize that all this guy is is a bunch of talk let me guess they way he got you was through compliments let me let you in on a little secret i have found out any guy in the world no matter how ugly or poor would be able to pick a girl up through compliments now for the girls code of honor rat this guy out you will feel much better about his "****" comment and hey you get to help a girl out im sure you would want to know if your boyfriend was cheating on you if she turns all crazy on you just smile and walk away because you tried to warn her and her punishment for not listening to you will be cross your fingers SYPHILIS ;) good luck
2007-02-22 06:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by thingsfallapart123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a user and would of dumped you after sex good job you found out what a creep he was before you went further dont worry he isn't the bloke for you x
2007-02-22 06:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by londonletch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you're better off out of this relationship. he obviously does not care about you and your feelings if he is seeing someone else and being abusive towards you. you don't deserve to be treated in that way, you miss his friendship but you will soon find someone else who will make you feel that way again, and more, and without the abuse and secret girlfriend. you may not think so now, but you will and he will only hurt you more if you carry on seeing him.
2007-02-22 06:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by purplestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple he was trying to use you for something more, youve heard the old saying ive got another woman on the side. Thats what he was doing. Give him the boots.
2007-02-22 06:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best form of defence is attack! and you will find a lot of guys use it.
Look he is not worth your affection but it will hurt for a while sorry but that's life.
Learn from this, and you will come out of it a stronger and wiser woman.
2007-02-22 06:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋