My ex's birthday is soon. He gave me a card for my birthday, should I give one for his?

Question

We were sort of talking when it was my birthday. We have had no contact in ages.

Answer 1

A nice or silly, or nice and silly card would be a reasonable gesture!

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 2

I guess it would depend upon your relationship now and just how long it's been since your last contact? If you feel it was some what friendly at the time of your birthday then recipricate the gesture and maybe send a nice card, or even an "e-card"? Then again, if you feel uncomfortable just let the day pass and if he says anything explain how you felt? After all it's the thought that counts!

Answer 3

well...define the term "ages". You haven't had contact in two months? six months? a year? longer? Is he seeing someone else? Do you have feelings for him still? If you answered yes to the feelings question and you wouldn't mind the attention that it could bring , then by all means send a card. Now , I wouldnt go any farther than a card. I wouldnt do a sappy card either nor would I choose a funny one. I would choose something that drives the point across that you still care without sounding like you're crying while your picking it out..By the way, this could take hours to pick out the perfect card..Trust me I know, Im a gir too:)

Answer 4

If I were you I would give him what he really wants. My ex did the same to me about 5 years ago and the card turned into a great night if you know what I mean.

There is no other reason to contact an ex unless you want s (ex)

Answer 5

are cards and gifts are not meant to *mean* something, not just be an empty gesture, but to be an expression of relationship with/feeling for the other person?

if you haven't seen him in ages, then you would be initiating a contact. starting something anew. there's a reason for your not having seen him for so long, i presume: that one or both of you doesn't want to be in touch anymore?

so, have a think about what you want to happen after you've sent the card.

if you want to reopen communication with him - you want him back, or you think that there is a possibility of your becoming friends - then send him a card that gives him a subtle clue as to what you are wanting. and then wait for him to respond if he wants to.
if you don't want either of these, then what would be the point of sending a card? waste of a stamp if you ask me... just let it go... accept that he's no longer a part of your life, that there's no *relationship* there to reflect by sending a card.

that's my advice anyway :)

Answer 6

There is no reason not to return his thoughfulness. Having a break-up is no reason not to be civil. Many people remain friends after a suitable time has passed, and wounds have been healed. A birthday card is no more than a social acknowledgement, and since he has the maturity to acknowledge your birthday, you may feel free to return the social grace.

Answer 7

You shouldn't ever feel like you have to do anything for an ex...especially if you haven't had much contact of late. It's nice that he got you a card, but you shouldn't feel obligated to get him something.

Answer 8

I think you should. It would be rude if you didn't. No harm in a birthday card, he is not your enemy or anything. Just nothing mushy to give the wrong idea, maybe a funny one. You should be okay with that. Good luck.

Answer 9

First off, never feel obligated to do anything for an ex...UNLESS you are still interested in them. Do you care if your relationship continues? If your answer is "not really", then no, you don't have to bother with the card.

Answer 10

I dont think you should. Hes your ex for a reason and after not having any contact for ages, he might think youre after something

Answer 11

Yes just send him a card saying happy birthday and wish him a good year etc. Nothing too fancy, as he is your ex - unless you want him back. Its nice to be polite, just because he is your ex doesnt mean that you have to be enermies. I'm sure he'll appreciate it!