met my boyfriend over a year and a half ago and we now live together and are very much in love.
At first, we "courted" for about four weeks, spending quite a lot of time together (three or four nights a week) and then he went on holiday to Spain with a friend. When he came back, I asked him to be my boyfriend officially and he agreed. Five or six months later, we were having a light-hearted chat and it came up that while he was on holiday during the first month, he had drukenly kissed somebody else in a club in Spain. He was not ashamed or apologetic in any way - he just said that's how dating goes. While he was very upfront about it we hadn't been together very long when it happened, I've felt betrayed ever since. He says he would never ever have done it had we been further into the relationship and never even looks at anybody else. However, was he wrong to kiss somebody else at that stage in our relationship? Did he do anything wrong?
2007-02-22 06:10:50 · 4 answers · asked by kevinos_1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm a guy, so you can hold it against me :) I don't think that you should give much tought to it. He wasn't sure if anything was going on, he was drunk (OK, that's not much of an excuse) and as you said: he is faithful (I think he as more than faithful) to you since you are "officially" together. That girl isn't around, probably it meant nothing to him. So forget about it, and be happy with your boyfriend.
Oh, and he's not apologetic: at that time, he didn't think it was anywhere close to cheating. Now, I don't think he would do anything like this. Life is full of problems. Don't create new ones for yourself, or for the ones you love. :)
2007-02-22 06:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by einsti2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if there relationship wasn't very clearly defined at that time, I don't think he did anything wrong. Plus he's all yours NOW, right?
But I can sympathize... that would kind of hurt to hear no matter what the stage of the relationship. I think you might do best to let it lie. I mean, even if you ultimately determine that he was totally wrong, what can be done now? It's a different time now, you're together, happy and exclusive, right?
2007-02-22 06:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet so no he didn't do anything wrong, this happen awhile back so you shouldn't even be concerned, and its not like he lied to you because you never asked him. just let it move on and be happy.
2007-02-22 06:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't do anything right but at the same time he didn't do anything wrong.What do you think a vacation is for?.
2007-02-22 06:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋