Help ! Depression?

Question

my frnd(28 yrs) is suffring frm dipression fr the last 10 yrs it ist comes to noticed whn he is trying hard fr his entrance exam nd his unusual behaviour like not talking feeling guilty nd feeling sucide before 10 years he was just a living person...but since dn he is continious got deprrsd his depression is temporay but he got deprssd every year fr 3 months after dat taking some pills he is normal again but nxt year feel dprssd again .....one of his realtive is also suffring frm dis but his realtive is now in permanent depression.....(is dat genetic)........but his depression is temporary nd mostly took place in the month of july to sept every year nd aftr dat he is normal..again.his dreams are always high bcoz he was very brilliant student b4......i also herd abt atypical depression...i wanna know how to interact wiv him.....as if anyone wanna talk he feel angry ...pls help

Answer 1

There is such a thing called seasonal depression. If he is seeing his doctor about it and getting medicine to keep himself in check then he should be okay

Answer 2

I speak from experience here, and the first thing I want to say is "God Bless you as a friend". I will try to put myself in your friends shoes for a few moments and try to explain to you, at least from my point of view what I /he am going through as best I can, and what I think I need.

These are extremely difficult times to go thru, and as a man - when I go into these states, or worse yet when I feel them comming on, the dread, and anger, and embarrasment and hopleness I feel is almost overwhelming I know that the Doctor has told me that Depression is a disease, a chemical imbalance in my brain which causes these fugues, this disconnection with the world, but as a man, the Macho part of me still thinks that I should be able to "suck it up" and "snap out of it" and "stop acting the fool", and when I can't I feel like a little wuzzy girl - it's embarrassing, it' makes me angry, it makes me feel out of control and hopeless, and it's scary too. Am I going crazy? There are times when I hear things - like I'm laying down and I hear my name being called from another part of the house clear as a bell - and I get up to see who is calling me and there is no one there. Or I'm just about to sleep and something caresses my leg or arm, - I think it's my wife who has come home early - I open my eyes to say hello and no one is there.

Some times my mind whirls so fast with thoughts that I can't stop it, - I've gone 5 days without sleep, many times 4 and 3 days without sleep. The bed becomes my drug of choice. I become agoraphobic - I do not want to go out, I do not want to leave the house. When I do I get panic attacks, I do not feel "OK" until I m home again. I do not want visitors, or to talk to anybody - except my wife, and then only about day to day things, and only for a little bit. I like to know she is there in the house with me, but we do not have to talk.

As a good friend Come and talk to me, tell me you really don't understand much about this depression business, (Hell - I have it and I don't either), but as a friend you just want to be here for me, you want to come over and just hang out, we don't have to talk, if I just want to sleep that's OK. But you'll be there just in case I need to talk to some one, or if I want to get out for a while - maybe just to sit in the sun on the back porch.

If I want to talk be a good ear and listen. Remember you are NOT a Psychatrist - so please no suggestions about treatment or try this or that, or what "worked for your crazy cousin Larry". Maybe you bring over a flat pie sometime, and we have a slice together, but please remember, I'm feeling fragile and really feel like I need to be alone, - right or wrong - but know that I really do appreciate your comming around and being my friend and trying to cheer me up, - cause this is not going to last, and soon I will be back to my old self again, and things will be even better than before my brother. Thanks for you thoughfulness and consideration man.

You Rock!

Answer 3

I found some good information on depression as well as treatment to cure it etc here http://xrl.us/u3ww. Seems to have some good advice and should help you.

Answer 4

He needs to be treated for chronic depression.
All you can do is encourage him to see a doctor, and be supportive.

Answer 5

Please, please encourage him to see a doctor ASAP. Also, help him the feel that there is nothing wrong with getting help. His life will be so much better for it.