How do Christians guys meet Christian girls?

Question

Let me explain why the four most obvious answers don't work for us:

1) Join a christian club/group at your college.
We go to community college, no Campus Crusade/Christian groups

2) Try a Bible Study.
I never liked this setting, meeting in someone's house under certain terms in a small group discussing various lessons. Great for learning, not for making friends.

3) Church.
My buds and I feel guilty when we flirt with girls at church, it's just an awkward feeling.

4) Try an internet dating site.
I think I would find it hard to carry on a relationship with a picture on a computer screen or a voice on the phone.

These were all answers we got a while ago, we each tried them out with no luck.

Smart alec responses are not appreciated.

I've been told a couple of times to look for a girl with a great personality and not worry so much about religion.

I did that, met an amazing girl, who happened to be a hardcore Wiccan.

Let's just say after a lot of unneccessary drama I've since vowed to keep myself involved with Christians only.

Answer 1

I met my wife at church, but the flirting didn't happen there. We were fortunate enough to attend a church that had a Singles' Ministry; we went out on many group dinners before I asked her on a one-on-one. In fact, we were just friends for a year before we started dating.

So church can work, you just don't make your move there. Use church social events to get to know someone instead; then you have a better idea of whether or not you want to go on to something more intimate.

Answer 2

Think about where the Christian girls in your town might hang out. They are probably all around you--at the bookstore, the coffee shop, etc. They are probably even at the bars sometimes--just hopefully/probably not booty dancing, wasted at 2:00am.

I would try meeting girls like you normally would--in those settings. Then on the first date (or before) ask her where she goes to church. If you get a blank stare, you know you should move along.

But don't give up on church settings either--yeah you probably shouldn't scope it out like you're at a singles bar or something. But you can and should develop all sorts of friendships within that fellowship. And those can (and often do) later lead to the best relationships. I know lots of couples who met in church, but none of them started out just being asked out or flirted with before they knew the other person.

Answer 3

Couple meet in many places, the 3 most common are:

School (which you go to one)
Work
Church (which you have ruled out).
Instead of worrying about linking up with a girl, start doing the things you enjoy, if (when) you happen to meet a girl doing the same thing you enjoy, then at least you have something in common.

Answer 4

Maybe if you would be more interested in the woman's personality rather than just making sure she's a christian you'd have better luck. I'm not going to say that one religion is better over another, I'm just saying that you're unneccessarily limiting yourself by saying you need a christian girl.

Answer 5

First and foremost pray about it. God will guide you to what is best for you. Also my church never really had a good singles ministry. So I went to a Calvary Chapel that did. The ironic part is I never dated anyone from there but I found that my date life picked up once I put myself out there.

Answer 6

Truthfully go to the bar allot of Christians like to drink .In fact there all around doing what everyone ells is doing .When you meet a girl ask her if shes christian.

Answer 7

I don't know who you are but I suggest you get your facts straight, there are christiansgirls in lots of places.

Answer 8

At the wedding.