i really like this guy and i thing he really likes me ( were gion out by the way) and im in the 8th grade and i like my space...i dont want him to go "below the belt" and i dont know how to tell him! should i let it go and when he tries to grab his hand or what ??? i need help !!!!!!!!! what shoult i DO ???
2007-02-22 06:00:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunaltely, that is a major problem in dating when you are as young as you are. Guys are not mature enough to respect a girls choice to not get too physical and may try to force you to do something you dont want to do. Sadly, a lot of guys never truly get out of that phase. I suggest waiting a couple more years before you start dating. If you really must, find a nice guy that will respect you enough to let you be you.
2007-02-22 07:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight up that he isn't getting any and if he tryes then you are going to break it off with him all together. If your little boy doesn't respect your wishes and still keeps trying don't just become a date-rape victim by letting him do what he wants cause you are scared to say something to the kid. You are in control cause you have the vagina so keep it that way and all shall be well.. and if you have to break up with him it's no big deal you'll find a guy that will respect you sooner or later. Good for you by the way! Most 8th graders are chomping at the bit for sex. Be smart and wait till you buiild a worthwhile relationship.
2007-02-22 14:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is really scary to me, that you are so young and this is a concern for you. However, I am glad that you are making the choice to not go or allow your guy to go "below the belt". I guess this is a reality in our current society.
I think you just need to assert yourself. You can do this without being mean or rude, just be firm, and stay true to yourself. If your guy can't respect your wishes and your values, then he is not the one for you.
Also please read the book "Forever" by Judy Blume, I think it may give you some insight into your situation. It is oldskool, but definitely is still a testament to today's youth and first love.
Best of wishes, and stay true to you and your beliefs. Boyfriends will come and go, but you have to live with YOURSELF and look in the mirror everyday, and I want you to be proud of who you see looking back at you!
2007-02-22 14:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by NeNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you decide to do you need to do it firmly, tell him to stop and mean it. There are other things that you guys can do together as a couple. Let him know that you relly like him, but you're just not ready. If he cares about you at all he will respect you and not get all upset over it. Hope I could help. =]]
2007-02-22 14:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the total right to say no at any time. Just say you want to wait or something. I know that it will be awkward but it's better than you getting taken advantage of.
2007-02-22 14:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by O.K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tries it again, move his hand away and make sure you let him know you are not ready.
If he keeps it up, get out of there, he doesn't respect you
2007-02-22 14:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cinderella Undercover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the Rules. Don't hint, don't suggest, just tell him. Ya wanna play here is the rules......
If he doesn't listen, dump him.
2007-02-22 14:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him do more than you want him to, he should respect you for that.
2007-02-22 14:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋