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Question

Do you believe in waiting? Or do you think the risk is worth it?

Kids born out of wedlock to single moms are:

.5 times more likely to commit suicide.
•32 times more likely to run away.
•20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
•14 times more likely to commit rape
•9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
•10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
•9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
•20 times more likely to end up in prison.
•"Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages.

This is on top of STDs where 1 and 4 teens currently have one and don't know.
It is estimated that as many as one in four Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it.

Condoms don't protect against most STD ie herpes, warts, etc.

Answer 1

It is definetly not worth the risk!
I believe 100% in waiting untill you are married.

Answer 2

This is complete BS, all based on statistics. I had my son at 16, he's 4 now, he knows 3 different languages, can read books well beyond his years, and has has the best manners since he could talk. His first word was dinosaur. I had my second at 19, and he is moving at the same pace as my oldest. There are many parents who had kids when they were older who turn out to be just like this as well, they are only looking at young single mothers as compared to parents in general. If teens are responsible they will know to get tested for STDs. My children and myself are not a statistic...we're people, so why does everyone have to make us into a number. Give some hope to people instead of setting up the guidelines right from the start. It's like telling a mentally challenged person all they will ever be able to do is janitorial work. I have a good job, i support myself and my children, who do have a father (both to the same person who i was with for 4 years.) and i do not collect child support because i don't believe in it.
Look back in time at most of the well known serial killers. They're parents were married, and were older when they had them. Does that make any sense at all when looking at these statistics? NO. They're ONLY NUMBERS. A number doesn't represent a person, or they're behavior. Married or unmarried, it doesn't matter, people make stupid decisions, and whether or not the parents were married has nothing to do with it, it is all in how you raise your children, how much time you spend with them, what they see growing up, and what they are taught.I had 2 kids while still in high school, graduated with a 3.8 GPA with honors, and my kids will do the same, simply because that is what i want for them. If you raise your children right, marital status doesn't matter.

OH and BTW, since when does God have statistics, and since when does God put the power of judgment into your hands? I do believe that the sin committed is PREMARITAL SEX, not PREMARITAL CHILDREN...so don't get them involved. I'm Roman Catholic, and upon speaking to my priest before the baptism of both of my children that is what he told me. I have already confessed my sins to the Lord, it's in his hands not to decide, but he WILL NOT punish my children for my mistakes. If anyone has a problem with what i'm saying then that's fine, but the fact that i HAD my children makes me stronger than ANY of you who run and have an abortion every time you can't handle it. I messed up, but there are people who have messed up far worse than i have.

Answer 3

Yes it would be great if we could get our kids to wait.But the odds are against us.Sex is every where and made out to be no big deal.Just turn your T.V. on ,look through a magazine everywhere.
We have became a world of no responsibility for our actions.We have taken God out of our lives and this is what the world has became without him.We were meant to be be with 1 person our husband or wife.But the world laughs at that now.But who will be laughing on judgment day???
Thanks for posting this info.Maybe it will reach some of our youth and at least make them think!!

Answer 4

I agree. I feel so bad, there are sooooo many teenage mothers and even girls in their late teens/early 20's who have kids that have no stable family. I dont think that they have to be married, but i think you have no right to have sex knowing that you could bring a life into this world. before having sex, you need to konw that youre their sole responsibility. You have to care more about their lives then your own. Which means putting off things in your life like school. and finding good living conditions, and raising them healthy physically and emotionally.

and as for the guy who said he doubted that 1 in 4 has herpes that wasnt what was said. I honestly believe that 1 in 4 americans DO have a STD. HPV is a growing Sexually transmitted virus. I have 2 close friends who have it. one just showed up on her yearly exam years after she had unprotected sex with someone. Like people who are HIV postive. you dont get aids the day after you have sex, you carry diseases, and spread them even if you have no symptems. Its very improtant to be responsible. I dont think everyone should wait for marriage. I'm 23, and in a realationship and am VERY careful. I am on birth control and use condoms. and I'm very selective about knowing who i have sex with.

Answer 5

Waiting until marriage for sex isn't a realistic solution to the above problems. Responsibility, honestly, birth control, and condoms ARE reliable solutions.

Unrealistic solutions are never the answer. Education is.

Answer 6

None of that is surprising. That's why one should only have sex when they are mature enough to handle it, use effective forms of birth control, use condoms also, be choosy about their partners, and get tested regularly for STDs.

Answer 7

Your question was on unwed parents but what was it?Hey Soldier are you a Dr. in the military and want people to see the statistics out there---if so,you have I want to thank you very much.....

Answer 8

I am with fiona........not even a 1% worth risking.......apart from the statistics you showed us having sex before marriage is one of the greatest sins a human can commit ,,,,having sex before marriage is like raping becoz unless and until the you hav exchanged rings and vows the gurl isnt you gurl and the man isnt your man......i dunno about other but i personally wana wait till i get married and live the feeling of my marriage's first night........

Answer 9

I believe in waiting....but not for the reasons you have listed.

I also believe that we make our own choices and that reading number like this....is heart breaking....I really think we teach our children all that we can and in the end they make their own choices....I believe its about being there for them single or not....eating together and sharing your days......

these may be facts that you have typed....however I try to look for the positive %%%%% rather than the negative.

Best wishes

Answer 10

Waiting for marriage to have sex is a realistic solution......that way everyone involved would be disease free. I like your post.....good information.