I have Something I need to Say. It's about weight, life, and something you should know.?

Question

I am 13 years old and i am very skinny. i have never had and never will have an eating disorder, but i feel very self-conscious about my appearence. I am often teased about being skinny, and even my friends tell me things like "you're abnormally skinny" and make references to me such as "toothpick" and "stick".

I eat and exercise normally but I don't gain weight. the way i look stings a lot when i am reminded of it. Clothes never really fit me right. My friends, being normal schoolgirls, of course, constantly complain about the way they look. they always tell me how they are "too fat" or that they think they are ugly. when i tell them i am self-conscious about being very skinny, they dissmiss it. Apparently, it is more troubling to think you are fat.

I want everyone to know that people who are very skinny face the same self-doubt as those who think they are fat. Think about that the next time you make assumptions or a joke about the girl who is skinnier and bonier than most.

Answer 1

This is a really tough age and time in your life I'm sure... you've probably just started high school? At least not long ago?

Please don't let anyone convince you of anything other than the fact that you're BEAUTIFUL. Skinny, fat, short, tall.. you're BEAUTIFUL. Your friends are just picking on you because of their own insecurities about their weight and looks, and I bet because you're pretty, lash out at you rather than face their own feelings about themselves (and do something about them ie exercising).

If you're concerned about putting on some weight, try to get more protein in your body and exercise. I know exercising might seem counterproductive, but if you do a lot of weight type exercising, will gain muscle and definition. Talk to a doctor if you can and they can maybe refer you to a nutritionist.

And remember this.. these feelings will pass. I was 13 once, and was having problems with my body image. I'm 23 now and happy with myself. Don't let your friends make you feel bad.. if this is the way that they feel about THEMSELVES, maybe you can start exercising together? Check out Turbo Jam or Hip Hop abs from Beachbody.com. I'm using both right now and LOVE them.

Answer 2

you sound like a very sensible and mature young lady. It is a very hard time being a teenager, i was a very late developer and when every one else had breasts and had started their periods i still hadn't, which made me feel very self- conscious and i had no self confidence.I hope you remind your self that we are all different but all just as important and keep your self confidence.I know that at your age all you want is to fit in with everyone else, but later on you will find out that it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you,the most important thing is to feel ok about yourself. Most of all don't let others make you feel bad about yourself it can take a long time to recover from that. Good luck.

Answer 3

I just wanted to say you sound like a very mature 13 year old. You wrote your statement very well. Have you ever though of making a living at writing.
I have a friend who knows exactly how you feel. He is 22 and can't gain weight. Maybe as you get older your metabolism will slow down. Good luck

Answer 4

I can imagine what you are going through. My cousin (whose close to being my best friend) we grew up together, and her sister was always a little thicker than she was, and so was i. we would always complain about our shapes, and thighs, and growing arm fat. But my cousin melissa... she had it rougher than we did. If we were walking down the street, we would have to put her in the middle, cause the reality was that the weird perv. guys wouldnt dare touch girls of me and marlyns size, but melissa... you could throw her over ur shoulder and carry her to mexico. (we lived in arizona... it was possible) But she always complained about clothes and stuff like that. Now she has grown up, hit puberty a little more and she looks (almost) healthy. But I wouldnt worry about what other people think.Their opinion isnt what matters. yours is.
~Love Always
Bianca

Answer 5

So, are you complaining that you're not overweight, or just saying that skinny people have feelings, too? Well, thin or fat, old or young, we all don't like being made fun of, laughed at, told we're not 'too' this or 'not enough' of this. People need to respect the feelings of Everyone around them - handicapped, blind, crippled, overweight, underweight, hair-lips.. whatever.

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Answer 6

Very,very, very well said.
It appears that we always want what we don't have and always believe that the grass is greener on the other side. But the grass is always the same and once we have what we want, we just want more.

Answer 7

I feel your pain. As the chubby sister of a girl called "Bones", I've seen both sides.
People can be real jerks.
I guarantee you, they are jealous. Don't let them get you down.

Answer 8

you should be a model. they are all nasty skinny.

stop complaining, you are the way you are. deal with it.

it is natural, it is the way it should be. get over it.

Answer 9

You are absolutely right.

Answer 10

Well said.