i fell so sad and under presure even tough i love him but i can't take it any more please help me
2007-02-22 05:42:47 · 24 answers · asked by Bubbles<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, first thing I'd do is learn to spell, then I'd tell him to shove off!
2007-02-22 05:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been there many times. Please dump him if you are unhappy. You need to be true to yourself. My ex made me unhappy but I loved him and thought that if I dumped him I would be unhappy and unable to find anyone else. However, I was totally wrong. I was much happier without him and have found someone else, and I'm not one of the popular girls, I'm not very pretty or attractive. Don't feel as if he'll be the only boyfriend you'll ever have and that you've got to hold on to him. Dump him or talk to him about how you feel. If you feel that you can't talk to him then that means that you haven't got a good relationship and you both have a communication problem, so that would mean that the best thing to do would be to break up with him.
2007-02-22 13:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it sounds like you might be feeling fustrated and alone. Even though you love him you need to be able to know what is best for you. Some people stay in relationships because they love a person so much but they are not happy and being hurt by staying. Your boyfriend may not understand why he is hurting you have you talked about the issue? If not you should try... its not always the matter of dumping or leaving the other things can be sorted out! DONT stress....... you know what to do
Meesa
2007-02-22 13:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunmeesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny but my sister called me last night crying over the same issue with her boyfriend.So I'll just give you the same advice I gave her...
A large part of a relationship is emotions based on many boundaries such as love,trust,and respect.If someone in the relationship crosses one of these boundaries then its time to take a step back and re-evaluate where the relationship stands where its going and if a limit has been pushed too far.Respect is a an part to all boundaries and also needs to be maintained to keep the relationship happy and level.If he has disrespected you and it is pushing you too far then its time to start weighing heavily is he worth staying with for LOVE or are you worth MORE than the disrespect he shows you?
Personally I think you're worth MORE than the disrespect he shows and if you feel the same way then you need to tell him he has crossed a boundary that is hurting you and causing you to RETHINK your relationship and the place he holds in the relationship.If he wants to keep his position then he needs to take the time to remedy and repair the hurt he has caused.If he only makes a token effort to do this then truthfully he isn't worth staying with for LOVE.
Good Luck Hun & Remember YOu're Worthy of Respect & Deserve IT,
M.G
2007-02-22 13:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with yourself. you are taking disrespect from others for a reason. get past this. you should never be disrespected. you have to love yourself before you can love another. take a breather. learn more about yourself. you know that you do not want this relationship. now, what is your next move?
are you afraid to tell him its over? will he harm you? get your strength together and focus girl. live your life to the fullest. not with a loser that doesn't have your best interest in mind.
good luck.
2007-02-22 13:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever sit back and take disrespect! By doing so, not only is he disrespecting you , you are disrespecting yourself! If you can't love yourself enough to to respect yourself no one else is ever going to either! Figure out how you expect to be treated.....and don't settle for anything less.
2007-02-22 13:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you mean by disrespected - it could have been an unintentional mistake on his part. Also it would depend on how long you've been together and how much you want to commit to working out this problem. Start out by talking to him to find out why he did what he did, and go forward from there.
2007-02-22 14:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no confusion here - dump him. If he can't respect you he can't love you. Find a man who can treat you well and move on.
2007-02-22 15:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disrespected you, you mean? a relationship when one feels being under pressure is not really working out anymore. get on with your life. get a proper education first. are you sure what you're feeling is love? or is it just lust & the feeling of getting used to have him around?
2007-02-22 13:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did he disrespect you?
First of all....Know that you are your own person....if you allow him to do this....and get away with it....it will continue.
If you see yourself with him....you need to tell him you won't tolerate this type of behavior.
You count, as do your feelings.
Stand up for yourself...if you don't NO one will.
Best wishes
2007-02-22 13:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋