have been seeing this guy for about a month and a half "offical" for 2 weeks im his first gf in 2 yrs.when we first started hanging out he would make EVERY effort to see me(never alone tho always with friends)the first week we became gf/bf, i saw him almost everyday.last thurs we all went to a barand i saw a 1 of his friends(girl)getting too close to him & i freaked.he didnt talk to me all friday and half of sat.i didnt see him again until tuesday this week he seemed SO happy to see me(no we didnt have sex).I straight up asked him if he wants to be with me and he said of course i do.i asked him if h wanted to meet up last night when he was done helping his buddies with something and he said possibly.I called back after and said that i wanted a answer and i want to see him more.he said he would "figure it out"and call me back.HE never did!!I dont want to be a nag BUT this is going to ruin this.i barely call him,so im not really needy,i just think we need to develop our relationship!
2007-02-22 05:34:14 · 7 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy was happy to see you and he said he wanted to be with you.
You guys don't need to see each other every day. That's not what dating is all about, if you have different expectations, tell him.
You're not a nag, but you do have to understand that he has friends he wants to hang around with and then there's you. Don't try to pull him away from his buddies, he's got responsibilities to them as well. As for the girl...forget her, it's such a minor thing, plus she was the one all over him, be glad it wasn't him HITTING on her! The rule is, if your boyfriend isn't "asking" for it, then don't even think about it.
Give him his space, let him working things out or figure things out like he said...he probably just forgot to call, give him the benefit of the doubt.
Call him up today and said you missed his company last night. You don't need to have a "talk" with him. He doesn't need a lecture, guys are very forgetful, I've been married for 2 years and it's more evident now than before when we were dating.
If as you guys continue dating and this becomes a habit, then you know there's something wrong. At some point, he should be starting breaking away from his friends to be with you more often. Right now, it's still very new for you two to be together so things are going to be a little off for a while.
If he's a good guy, things will get better. Just give it time...this really is not enough to break a relationship over.
Don't force things to be a certain way, your relationship will develop with time. There are things you need to go through to be able to feel like you want to open up and share things about yourself. It takes more than just two and a half months.
2007-02-22 05:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be scaring this guy away. The relationship is so new and yet you seem to be really getting spazzy about that girl (the friend), and about getting a serious relationship going.... NOW. I think you might want to consider backing off a bit, relax, and just enjoy his company if, you are with him much in the future. Well, good luck anyway, I do hope this works out for you...
2007-02-22 05:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were a possible back up plan. I wouldn't make myself available to him whenever he chooses. He sounds immature and not ready to commit to a relationship. The girl who was "getting too close" what do you mean by too close? Are you sure that you weren't just being a little sensitive? Sounds like there are some issues early in the relationship, I'd move on.
2007-02-22 05:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by jtaylor1993 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is 'No, you should not have a "Talk"'. Believe me, that is the last things this guy (or any guy) wants to do. He wants to relax and have fun with you, not endlessly discuss the state of your relationship.
2007-02-22 05:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you are going to push him away... give him his space let him be a guy. considering that both of you are young, ya'll need to live life and try not to depend on each other. you need to take time to yourself and quit focusing on what he's doing... it shows that you don't trust him and trust is a big thing in relationships.
2007-02-22 05:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is into head games and only a few weeks into your relationship tell him good bye
2007-02-22 05:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋