I mailed a baby gift to a friend who lives in another state just before Christmas,after receiving an announcement of the baby's birth.She & I were close before she moved but since the move we have only corresponded by mail. I don't even know her phone number or if she has an e-maill address, since she moved about a year ago. I am a little hurt that she hasn't responded to thank me for the gift, not that that's the reason I sent it. She is a nice person but I find it upsetting that she would not send me an e-mail or call or something. Should I just forget about it or write to her & ask her if she got the gift. I don't want to embarass her.
2007-02-22 05:33:55 · 10 answers · asked by Sandi Beach 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would write to her and ask if she got the gift. You can say that you are concerned that it got lost and don't want her to think you ignored the announcement. Say you are very happy for her and just wanted to help her celebrate--or something like that. Phrase it in a way that you're saying that you want her to know how happy you are for her, and you want to make sure she got the message.
Same thing happened to me years ago. I didn't know how to handle it, so I did nothing. I wound up losing contact with her. Years later, I mentioned it to my mom and she suggested basically what I'm suggesting to you. It would have worked, I think, if I hadn't waited so long.
If you have her address, you might be able to get her phone number from whitepages.com. Be sure and include your phone number and email in your letter.
I know what you mean--you didn't send it for the thank-you, but it's nice to know the gift was received and appreciated.
2007-02-22 06:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maryfrances 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, write. 'Haven't heard from you...How're things...Did you get my parcel?' Etc. Nothing heavy.
Too much "I've been worried it didn't arrive" can be a bit transparent as "I have been wondering where the thank-you is," so don't sound like you're horribly worried; just "Did it arrive?" and leave it at that.
And -- please be patient. She may well have said "Right, thank-you letters just as SOON as thing calm down here," and found life with a new baby to be anything but calm. Also, it's not the greatest thing to think about, but she or the baby could've had problems -- if the baby was sick, or she's got a bit of 'post-partum depression,' it's probably been the last thing on her mind.
Hmm. I'm not even sure that "Did it arrive?" is the way to go, given how that's _always_ the advice given in response to "Didn't get a thank-you. What to do?" Most people can recognise it as a you-forgot-thanks hint. You might just want to say "Was the so-and-so I sent useful? Hope so, etc," and leave her to follow with "Yes -- loved it! Thank you!" or "So-and-so? What are you talking about?", depending...
2007-02-22 06:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her to make sure she got the gift. It very well could have been lost in the mail, or perhaps you accidentally put the wrong address on it. Since it went to another state, this is a very good possibility. Even if it did reach her, perhaps she misplaced your address, or was involved in a crisis of some kind whereby writing to you slipped her mind. Maybe her baby was gravely ill.
Please give her the opportunity to explain. It seems as though the friendship is still important to you, so don't give up without hearing from her.
2007-02-22 05:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop her another note, just asking how everything is going and asking if she received the gift ok? Explain you were a little unsure that it had been delivered ok. Make sure you include your email and phone number to make it easy for her to reply. Dont forget though, she has just had a baby and time might be something she doesnt have much of right now!
2007-02-22 05:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to her and ask if she received your gift. Things DO get lost in the mail pretty often. (or delivered to the wrong address, especially around Christmas) If she doesn't respond to your letter, you know she does not want to talk to you any longer.
2007-02-22 08:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write to her and ask her if she got the gift.
There is a possibility that it has been lost, and you do not want to resent her for something that may not have happened.
On the other hand, if she received it and did not thank you, this would be a gentle way to remind her. If you write her this would give her time to formulate a response and thus would not embarrass her.
2007-02-22 05:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Laura H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is she really a true friend? You can probably find her # on the internet, but how about sending her a funny card that says, "Haven't heard from you!" then just ask in the card if she got your gift. If you don't hear back from her, forget her!!
2007-02-22 06:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ever send her anything again.
I sent a gift to my nephew for the birth of his daughter, it has been over a year I have not heard anything yet. People were not brought up saying thank you anymore, and that is a shame that it has resulted in not sending gifts anymore.
2007-02-22 06:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have received the gift. Write her and ask her.
2007-02-22 07:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW .. UM I SUGGEST U just maill her agian and act like u were sayin hi.. She might of not recieved the letter.?... but yea... you should give her yuor # and stuff then ask4 hers i
2007-02-22 05:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by ISMAEL H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋