I'm 25 and I've been seeing this fabulous guy for only a week now, but we've gone out about 5 times so far. We're both adults and there is definitely some tension there between us. I would like to wait a little while so that we can get to know each other but it's getting tough (if you know what I mean...). If you're really really interested in someone, how long will you wait?
2007-02-22 05:28:45 · 30 answers · asked by frozenpeaches1981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't mean this question to be... How long do you wait before putting out for the FIRST TIME... been there, done that, lol
2007-02-22 05:38:46 · update #1
Depends on how you two feel. Talk to him.
Personally, I feel sex should be talked about before you do it. I don't believe time restraints shouldn't be placed on sex.
Just to give you some stats of what other girls are really doing.
The last 5 five girls I’ve dated
- 3 put out on the 2nd date
- 1 on the 3rd date
- 1 on the 5th date.
2007-02-22 05:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 48 and have years of "life experience". If the guy can't wait, he has a problem. He only wants one thing. If you feel you HAVE to put out in order to keep the guy, that's bad news too. Remember that every person you have sex with, you are leaving a part of yourself with them that you will never get back. Think long and hard about whether or not you want to give yourself away to somebody that might be gone next week, month or year. Me? I won't have sex again until I get married. If I can't find a guy that agrees with this, then I'll stay single. Works for me. Oh and another word of advice, get blood tests done to make sure (prove to each other) that nobody is carrying any sexually transmitted diseases. Yeah there are condoms but they are not 100% effective. Do you really want to risk dying for a night of sex?
2007-02-22 13:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by tricia_779 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i totally understand where youre coming from. I kinda have the same problem. I think that if you like someone enough,..and if you love them,..then you will wait as long as it takes,.or they will wait as long as you want them to. I think that if a relationship has tension because of the "putting out" issue, then,..something needs to be done. I'm not saying to put out,.i'm saying that if thats the case,..you are an adult and so is the other person,..you will find out what to do and what is right for you.
2007-02-22 13:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by lovelthotchik747 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I probably would have slept with him already but that's just me. However, I once dated a guy for 9 months before I slept with him because I wasn't sure I trusted him. We dated for several years after that night and we had a great relationship and to this day a really good friendship. If you think your relationship is strong enough to move into a sexual relationship than go for it.
2007-02-22 13:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by southernbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an individual call...there's no "best" amount of time...sometimes we set a time limit but then cave in under stimulating circumstances.
You can go wrong by having sex too soon...ya can't go wrong by waiting a little while. If you aren't ready yet then don't do it, but keep temptation at bay by not putting yourself in locations where it would be easy to go for it (stay public).
2007-02-22 13:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALOT LONGER THAN A WEEK!! Preferrably not til marriage, but if you MUST do it before that.........wait until you are committed to each other. At this stage of the game you are still casually dating (even if you see each other every day).
I dont know this guy, but I do know guys and ALOT of them will do what they have to in order to get what they want and then they bail out.
So you have to think..........how would you feel if you "put out"
and then never saw him again??
2007-02-22 13:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell I waited 7 years before I married my wife. I let her finish high school, and then college. What’s the hurry? Holding out? It should not be an issue. When the time is right I suppose…..
2007-02-22 13:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A week is too soon to be giving it up. You'll know how serious he is about you by not putting out. To keep that "tension" out of the equation...do more hand holding instead of the other stuff.
2007-02-22 13:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been had on the first date before.
2007-02-22 13:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you ARE 25. You have more flexibility to have sex sooner if you want. If the sexual attraction is particularly strong, there's nothing wrong with having sex as soon as a week.
But if you think he's yet another player, take some more time to get to know him.
2007-02-22 13:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋