I just started my job a few months ago and I don't mix well with the other females in my office. There are 5 women in here and I am not blending at all.
I am kinda tom boy and not into gossip or girlie stuff. So that knocks three of them out of my ring and the other is older and mean and bitter. Sometimes she is ok and other days I think she might hit me in the face.
I try to just do my work and leave but it is hard sometimes. Any tips on how to get along?
2007-02-22 05:10:47 · 16 answers · asked by The Voice Of Reason 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i would suggest you be courteous towards each of them. if you are not a gossip, it would probably be best to not get involved with people that like to gossip, especially if it involves other co-workers. but that doesn't mean you can't talk to them. it's hard to work in a place and not have anyone to talk to. you need to be able to have at least one person you can communicate with for whenever you need a quick break.
just remember, you're not there to make best friends, but you don't want to sit like a robot all day either. don't go out of your way, or change who you are, for the sake of a 9-5 friendship.
if you feel like there is nothing more you can, or are willing to, do, then just let it be. you haven't been there that long; more than likely, as time passes, you will feel more at ease with them.
2007-02-22 06:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by jack_skellington49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I didn't fit in either with the group I worked with. Then I suggested a group lunch and invited everyone. Make it a routine...such as every other Friday or something. Take turns picking the restaurant or bringing in lunch from home. We soon found things that we had in common and were able to build relationships from that. It may take some time to find common threads but they will likely be there. If not, at least you tried and you should be able to work with them easier. If you can't, then get a new job or find friends outside of the workplace. You don't have to participate in the gossip. You can carry on conversations and try to politely steer them away from the gossip.
2007-02-22 13:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can bring in donuts or some kind of snacks to share with everyone. It's hard when you do not get along with your co workers, because you have to be there all day long. So no matter how hard it may be for you to initiate a relationship, you have to try. Another good way to strike up a conversation, try asking them questions on how to do a job. Even if you already know how to do everything, everyone likes feeling like they can be of help to another. Just act like you do not know how to do something, and be humble. Good Luck ;p
2007-02-22 13:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by kc321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there men in your office? You can have friends of both genders, you know.
As for getting along with the other women, you don't have to have tons of things in common to get along with someone. You just need respect for the other person. As long as you are respecting them, you have the right to ask that they respect you as well. If they don't, take it up with your boss or Human Resources. So, you won't be best friends with these people, but it will make your life easier if you can manage some small talk or friendliness.
The best way to deal with a grump is to kill them with kindness when you can't avoid them.
2007-02-22 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by soelo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the girls are just ignoring you, screw 'em. If you work well enough you may be promoted and won't have to deal with these people.
The older one...won't care about what you have to say. So screw her as well.
But, if they are openly harassing you, you'd have to talk to Human resources or something like that. And make sure you get documentaion if you're gonna do that
Basiccally, people are only human, which is why we have these kinds of problems. Ignoring them won't make them stop, but it make make them into white noise--after a while, you don't hear it
Good luck!
2007-02-22 13:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by wdaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I am the tom boy type, and I am not into makeup and gossip. I tend to avoid the women at work. WHen I have to talk to them, I try to be very nice, but I do not try to make deep friendsships with them either!
2007-02-22 13:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, they don't sound like the type I'd like to hang around. Let the 3 girls gossip and the older woman go through her mood swings. Do your own thing and work hard - you'll be just fine.
2007-02-22 13:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you get along doing work and it's they aren't going out of their way to make things unpleasant, you'll be fine. Friendship at work seem to grow a little slower.
2007-02-22 13:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be friendly, that is all you can do. Maybe you could all go out to lunch one day, maybe if you sit down and talk you will realize you do have something in common with these people.
2007-02-22 13:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do your job, and hang out with the guys in your office... that's what I do, as there is always too much competition with women.
2007-02-22 15:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sakaki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋