HELP!!!!THIS IS getting so rediculous!!!!!!! should I have a 'talk'???!!?

Question

I have been seeing this guy for about a month and a half "offical" for 2 weeks im his first gf in 2 yrs.when we first started hanging out he would make EVERY effort to see me(never alone tho always with friends)the first week we became gf/bf, i saw him almost everyday.last thurs we all went to a barand i saw a 1 of his friends(girl)getting too close to him & i freaked.he didnt talk to me all friday and half of sat.i didnt see him again until tuesday this week he seemed SO happy to see me(no we didnt have sex).I straight up asked him if he wants to be with me and he said of course i do.i asked him if h wanted to meet up last night when he was done helping his buddies with something and he said possibly.I called back after and said that i wanted a answer and i want to see him more.he said he would "figure it out"and call me back.HE never did!!I dont want to be a nag BUT this is going to ruin this.i barely call him,so im not really needy,i just think we need to develop our relationship

and i know ppl r going to say i shouldnt make myself so available, but i dont think i should have to play a game. If we are developing a new relationship we should be seeing each other quite often!! I just dont want to give up on this BUT its getting kinda rediculous

Answer 1

People who truly have a "relationship" don't need to be with each other every single day. You asked him to give you an answer and he said he'd think about it and call you back. He didn't call. there's your answer. He has already figured out that you're a clinging, jealous, manipulating girl and he doesn't need it. If you're available for sex, well, then -fine - he'll use you but it seems that he has decided the sex with you isn't worth the drama. Get over yourself and get over him.

Answer 2

Maybe you should just let it go. Not to say that he's not interested but maybe he just wants to be able to do what he wants to do, which is fine but that apparently is not the kind of relationship you want. You sound like you need him to be there like he was in the beginning. This is still the beginning of the relationship so it's better to end it now, or give him space than to do it later on when feelings are really involved. It's hard to say, you know. But if you step back for a minute maybe he'll notice that and he'll take what you've been saying more seriously. You've already tried to say something when you told him you wanted an answer, and you wanted to see him more. Well, it was not as important to him as it is to you. Obviously. So give him space, see what happens. Maybe you're trying to force something that is just not going to be for whatever reason. If he is not the one and you focus all your energy on him then you won't see MR.RIGHT when he's staring you in the face. Good luck

Answer 3

Ok. One thing about guys that i learned the hard way is that they respond to actions not words. He knows exactly what is going on and if he doesnt he will when u suddenly become the one unavailable, u get me? When a guy knows that he has a hold on you he will take it for granted and pay no mind to you. This is the reason he is being stupid because things are going on "his terms". You need to understand that if he doesnt want to see you he is def a loser and things need to be on "your terms". I think you should not nag dont mention it anymore. Let him come to you. When he sees your not calling as much or nagging at all he will suddenly stop to think why your not responding the way you usually do. This will get him to take interest in you (this is all of course if he is TRULY in to you). When he comes your way to see whats wrong thats when you lay it out in the open very straight foward. Guys hate being nagged and most of all running around the bush. With them you need to get to the point. When you start making plans YOU give HIM the OPTION of seeing you for example either Mon or wedn then he can take his pick. Do not let him chose when he can see you, you have to make things on YOUR terms. As far as the "friend" incident. The same thing happened to me. my bf had a "girl" friend who was only SUPER friendly to him and not the other guys in the group. I said nothing the first few times to analyze my assumptions of her liking him and to see if she would be as friendly with other guys. When i had enuff i simply told my man face to face in a calm manner that i didnt like what she was doing and would appreciate it if he told her to stop. He blew her off altogether and now we are very happy. You see u r the woman u have the power. The moment a guy thinks he has a hold on u its all over....i hope this helps....I AGREE WITH THE FIRST ADVICE...READ THE BOOK ITS HELPED ME!!!!! IT IS THE BEST THING IVE EVER READ!!! ITS TRUE ......MEN LOVE BITCHES!!!!!!

Answer 4

Take a deep breath and chill for twenty minutes. Think about what is important in this relationship and what your priorities are. Then think about what his priorities might be. It isn't all about you; you are not each other's accessories.

If what you both want is a committed relationship, then you need to talk about it. If what you both want is fun, casual dating without a serious committment, that is OK, too. You both have to have the same priorities and goal for it to work. If you want committment and he wants casual...kiss it goodbye because anything you say about it will scare him off any way.

Answer 5

He's playing games, just break up with him. Take a hint from him getting too close to another girl then not talking to you, it should have been you not talking to him, but by not talking to you he was trying to make you seem like the one who was wrong. If he cared about how you felt he wouldn't have let her get too close in the first place.

Answer 6

What are you in such a big hurry for??? Why can't you just let it happen naturally?? You are the one being ridiculous! Just because his idea of you being together is different from yours, it's not good enough for you! Men don't think about relationships like girls do! Girls are ready to jump in, get married and all the guy wants to do is get to know you and have fun! Cool your Jets, hun!

Answer 7

Move on.....don't sit at home and wait for him to call or come see you. He should have called you back. You asked him directly if he wanted to be with yu and he said "of course". He will continue to let you down.

Answer 8

you should really talk to him about it and see if he is in the same bandwagon as you are in. If not, maybe you two move a bit fast into your relationship and should have taken time to really get to know each other more.

Answer 9

there is an awesome book out right now called "why men love bitches". It explains why you should not make yourself available. You want to attract him to you, not force him and this book will help!

Answer 10

he seems like he's playing around with u
continue to build up ur relationship but don't b surprised if he like doesn't call or c u no more