Ladies, any of you feel dread when you were proposed to? What happened?

Question

Did you get married? Did it work out?

Or are you still in that unsure place?

Is it you, or him that you are uncertain of?

Answer 1

No dread. No uncertainty until a couple of days before the wedding, but I think that is pretty normal to question yourself just to make sure. Got married, very happy. I think if dread comes up as an emotion, you may think very hard about the guy or about your feelings on commitment in general.

Answer 2

I felt dread when my b/f asked me to be his g/f, 2 weeks after we met. We will be together 5 years this year, so things worked out great. I'm not into the marriage thing, so I hope he doesn't propose. I just don't really believe in marriage. If it is you that is having doubts, you should definitly wait. Doubt means DON'T. The divorce rate is so high, maybe it is best to have a REALLY long engagement, or tell him you aren't ready for marriage.

Answer 3

I just got the proposal last weekend, so my feelings are very fresh in this regard. It was a total surprise, and no, I didn't feel dread-I was knocked out by it. I was excited and I was in freak out mode until probably last night, but dread never entered the picture. I love him and we have known for the past many months we were headed for marriage.

Answer 4

when my fiance proposed i didn't feel any dread but we had been together 5 1/2 years, and are getting married this fall, only thing on my mind that has me worried is we are in the middle of buying a house and the fact we are in a bad economy scares me

it depends on each and every relationship and the levels involved

Answer 5

I think "dread" is a strong word...I have had feelings of "is this too fast, is this a good idea, what if it doesn't workout" but that's true in most things in life. If you sat back and thought "what if" you'd never make any decisions - even bad decisions are okay, at least you did something. I don't agree that "when in doubt do nothing" hell, you'd be standing still half your life! You live and you learn and hopefully don't do that same mistake again. That's my two cents.

Answer 6

I never felt dread at all. I was incredibly happy. Yes we got married, been married 26 yrs and still going strong.

Answer 7

i never felt dread... it was not really a supprise for me because one of his friends had already told me that he had the ring so i knew it was going to happen it was just a matter of time. the way he did it was so cute because we had been dating for 3 months and i always wore a ring on my left ring finger and he always took it off and played with it for those three months. then he made me dinner one night and after dinner he was playing with my ring again so i thought nothing about it. and he had always asked if he could keep it and i always told him not unless he was going to replace it so that night he asked if he could keep it and it was the same answer... so he kept playing with it and then he dropped it and was on one knee by me but never asked then he was still playing and he dropped again! then he asked again and i said no so then he asked if i would marry him and did not hold up my ring but the ring he got me!!!!!! then we went to our friends hoise to show it off! it was so sweet.... we have been married for almost 3 months now.

Answer 8

I was very excited when I got proposed to because we had been talking about it for a while.He got down one knee and told me how much he loved and asked ever so sincerely to be his wife. We got married this past January.

Answer 9

i didn't feel dread, but i was uncertain. we married & i we are both very happy. i couldn't have a better marriage. i will add : i was uncertian because i was married before & that didn't work.

Answer 10

It wasn't dread it was more like inconvenienced. I didn't see us at that level and he was at a different speed than me. I had to say no gently and we are no longer friends. But that's the way it was supposed to be.