He just for Iraq, I feel sick. I cry all of the time, I have panic attacks.... I'm so scared something is going to happen to him...How do I make myself feel better?
2007-02-22 04:59:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
That's an unfortunate consequence of being involved with a military person; it's much like being married to a police officer.
The truth is that while some military folk are casualties of war, they are in the minority. The military folk are as safe as we can make them, and the media definitely shows mostly the bad things that happen in wartime. Truth is that "if it bleeds, it reads", meaning, in media speak, violence sells better than peace.
Still, some people are injured or killed in the military, and moreso during wartime. I still have friends in the military (I left in 2002). You might consider joining a support group for people involved with those in the military.
A related question was asked a while ago, and you can find it here:
2007-02-22 05:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well not many people who don't have a loved one in the military on a war time mission can really relate to how you feel .
i suggest you contact the military and see if there are groups for the wife's in your position near you . i am positive some groups for people in your position are in place. sometimes the base commanders wife runs something like that.
you go ahead and call them being around others who have the same problem can make this matter much less worry some
they may have other groups that will be great for you as well and be just social . i am sure your husband wants you to have some people around who know what this is like.
now i don't support the war as i think its based on a lie but i sure do support the poor soldiers who are there doing the best they can with making some good come out of all of this. i will pray for you and all the people involved.
2007-02-22 05:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend nick is over there to some where as hard as it is i try to remember that he a strong guy and he been trained to do what he was to do and he doing for the rest of us so we can be safe. i miss him a lot but i know he going to be OK.. I guess what i am trying to say is be positive think about it in a good way, keep telling your self he's safe. also try to keep busy write in a journal about what you did and how your life is that why when he comes home you will have stuff to share with him. writing in the journal will get your feelings out and it will help you from crying. believe me I cry all the time and my bf only 30 min. away some people are just sensitive.(no I don't cry about him..I just cry a lot about thing b/c that's how I get things out..but i write things down and that helps me a lot.)
sending understanding and happy thoughts,
Rachael
2007-02-22 05:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ray m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions: Does my worrying make him safer? Will crying and having panic attacks bring him back sooner?
The answer of course, is no. It doesn't help one bit. I agree with others though, that prayer does work at giving us peace and calmness. If your boyfriend was here with you he could very well die in a car accident or a health condition. So keep thinking positively and distract yourself with other things.
I'll say a prayer for him right now! I love and appreciate all our troops and what they do for our country.
2007-02-22 05:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to worry about a loved one going into a war area. Pray for him and yourself. Send letters to him often. And remember that several women and men have already been to Iraq and back.
2007-02-22 05:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by mop-27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prayer works wonders, all of your worrying and making youself sick is not going to keep him safe, you have to keep youself of sound mind and body so you can be here in one peice when he gets back and you can hold him. prayer is strong, anytime you feel an attack or a loss of control coming on take a deep breath and ask god to watch over him, give all your fears to god, its in his hands, and all you can do is pray.
also there are lots of great support groups for people with signifigant others type it into you search engine along with your town, talking to others helps alot too....
HANG IN THERE!!!
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2007-02-22 05:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to other girls whos bf's are there it will help and i dont have a marine bf but everyone who knows me knows that i respect NO ONE MORE then the usmc or any other people fighting for our country. God bless your boyfriend and just remember hes there fighting for us and he will be home to you soon dont worry if hes strong enough to go there hes strong enough to come home!!!!
2007-02-22 05:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your anxiety and tears and sick fear is only putting negative energy in the air. Pray and think positive, strong thoughts. It he gets hurt, you need to be strong, not sitting around letting yourself fall apart. Maybe this isn't about you, it's about him, and a something much bigger than you.
2007-02-22 05:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry what happens happens! you live by the sword, you die by it.remember this ,he has the best training and has the best guys with him. when it comes time to die none of us knows when that will be.his unit is dealing with a problem the best way they know how and I am sure he is making the most of his situation. What he needs is your positive support.
2007-02-22 05:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honnie i know how you feel my man left a year ago and just came back a week ago. i just talked to him everyday and sent him stuff all the time. love if you want to talk to someone about how you feel you can e-mail me at d10_m10@yahoo.com i am willing to help you and talk to you about what you are going through.
2007-02-22 05:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋