What steps do you take to "let go" of the past?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Wow, letting go of the past is probably on of the hardest things to do, but in order to live and have a life you just have to let go. If it is a person that things are not going to work out with that your letting go of, always keep the memories. If it is person who has done you wrong, forgive and forget so that someday when you make a mistake you can be forgiven as well. Letting go is all a part of life and I truly do not think there are any particular steps to take it's just something that happens with time. Good luck!

Answer 3

It all depends on what you are "letting go" of. If you are trying to get over the death of a loved one, then I'm sure you have heard of the seven stages of grief that a person has to go through. You can do research on the internet to help you out with that one.

Somehow though, I kind of figure that that's not what you are talking about.

To "let go" of a relationship then the best thing to do is to look at the reasons why the relationship ended. It couldn't have been a good relationship if it ended, right?

So look at the bad things in the relationship, learn from the mistakes you made, and move on. It's really not that hard if you try it. I got over a marriage of 13 years this way.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Positive affirmations
Allowing yourself to grieve, but not allowing yourself to stay depressed.
Working on becoming responsible for the here and now. Bad things may have happened in the past, but only you can make yourself happy in the here and now. You are responsible for what you do and how you react each present day.
Putting away or getting rid of reminders of the past.
Stop worrying about what happened in the past. You may or may not have been responsible, but you are now. Don't dwell on the past.
Not allowing a person or thing from your past rule your present or have power over the person you are today.
Get counseling if you feel the need. If a counselor doesn't "feel" right for you, try a different one.
It takes daily work to get to the place where the past does not affect your everyday life.

I am not speaking as one who has "read" about this subject. I have lived through many, many negative things from my past. I have come to the place where nothing from the past has power over my present. When I see a sensitive subject on TV or friends talking about such a subject, I still allow myself to become righteously angry, but I don't allow it to ruin my entire day.

Answer 5

it depends on what are you trying to let go. For instance, my brother past away 3 years ago. I wasn't able to mourn him the way I should of because i had to be the strong one my family leaned on. I now focus on my child as much as I can. Making sure that not a single day goes by without telling him I love him. Or my husband betrayal, I use the "forgive and forget". If you believe in GOD, pray to Him. He will carry your burdens.
One thing I used to do when I was a teen was write down everything that was at the time "pulling me down" and then say a prayer and burn the paper, that way, I know I gave it to GOD and He will deal with it.

Answer 6

1. Realize that IS the PAST...meaning it cannot be undone; it is over

2. Review it if you have not already done so - but do so HONESTLY and admit to ANY role you may have played in the outcome if one....regardless, see where you may have avoided pitfalls if possible and LEARN from the experience [this learning is a positive!]

3. FORGIVE anyone who may have harmed you - do not hold on to resentments and anger....that may be difficult, but try praying for that person every night for 30 days...after a while you will notice that you view them a bit differently. This does not mean you have to LIKE them or even see them, but recognize that you give them power over your own present and future if you hold on to pain and anger and resentment.

4. Set new goals for yourself...write them down....and then break down those goals in small achieveable 'next steps' that you can accomplish each day/week....

5. DREAM

6. Clean House - yes, clean house - your mental house; your physical house [get rid of things that make you remember] - your emotional house [throw out bad feelings] and look at those whom you surround yourself with - are they providing positive vibes in your life? If not - clean house and choose upbeat people who are DOING THINGS WITH THEIR LIVES.

7. Get in touch with your spiritual self - whatever your spirit dictates...be it religion; introspection; yoga; etc etc

Answer 7

Find new (Positive) friends and hobbies. Enjoy life and everything in it if you can! It's certainly too short to spend a lot of time dealing with the past! Also, just stay busy doing things, don't sit around watching tv.

Answer 8

I know that that can be very hard, but you just have to close that chapter. Focus on the present, the now. go out with friends, to the movies, beach, church. Have fun. With time youll see that the problem you had wasnt such a big deal.

Answer 9

It depends what you are trying to let go of. Assess the situation and learn something from it . Then you can deal with it and get on with your life.

Answer 10

form new relationships and make changes in your life. keep busy try to find hobbies that include others. get plenty of sleep eat well and never let yourself get run down. say to yourself i am important i will treat my self special.start at square one crate a new you stay away from negative people surround yourself with people who adore you love and want to make you happy good luck.

Answer 11

Move on and try to forget...unless its something extreme...you still try to move on and do things that take you mind off of whatever you are thinking about.