Why don't a man knows when he has something good?

Question

I have a friend who is in a relationship and her boyfriend str8 out dogs her. But she stays with him and she does everything in her power to make him happy, yet he still wants to cheat all the time.

What is cheating to you all? Because I myself was in a situation but my boyfriend never slept with these women (from what they told me) but he was calling them and chillin with them...I believe its cheating and is very disrespectful and not right when you have someone good to you at home. Why didn't he think it was cheating?

Men can be so diffcult sometimes, hard to figure out. I just don't get it, even the older guys are playing young games.

Answer 1

There is a saying, "You don't know what you got until it's gone". Hard to say why guys act like jerks some time's. Experience has thought me the following (and watching my guy friends as well): Inmaturity, fear of commitment, not sure what they want in a woman, Pride, they think they are a cassanova and they can have their cake and eat it too (Have a girlfriend and a few on the side) or the guy is simply a selfish jerk. There are nice guys out there, just apparently not the one you or your friend are dating. Another saying (and I promise it's the last one); It's better to be alone and miserable, than with someone who makes you miserable. The choice is yours. You can choose to be alone and content or with this guy and miserable and insecure. Because no matter how your self esteem is, dating a guy that cheats makes you question "You". Best Wishes.

Answer 2

Let me give you and your friend some advice, I advise you to copy this if you can. All I ask of you is to stay true to yourself.
1. Don't date because you are desperate
2. Don't associate with people you can't trust
3. Don't cheat, don't lie, don't pretend
4. Don't demand because you are stronger
5. Don't sell yourself short
6. Don't regress or live in the past because time won't bring anything or anyone back
7. Don't put your life on hold for Mr. Right, don't throw your life away on Mr. Right
8. End lonliness by volunteering for the homeless
9. Pursue your passions and be the best you can be
10. Take away the clutter and simplify your life.
11. Live your dreams, never lose faith and never allow another person to dictate your life or your destination
Remember: No One Completes You But You!

Answer 3

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Your friend continues to stay with the guy out of convenience, rather than necessity.
Women do this all the time. It's not that they are scared to leave or love the guy so much, but because of the "fear of the unknown" out there; afraid to start the dating process all over again; etc..
She accepts his infidelities because it's more convenient to look past this and have him on a regular basis. She knows his flaws, faults, good side, etc...
She's used to the routine. THAT is the answer. She KNOWS him.

Cheating can be defined in may ways. Mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Morally, it's wrong - but that's the reality of it. People will justify their actions until the end of time. At the end of the day, there's the self-interest principle - it they benefit from it, it's all good.
Try not to get frustrated because you can't allow yourself to be upset with things you have no control over.
What's right is not always popular, what's popular is not always right.
You can't give the mind what it can't digest.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I feel your pain about how incredibly stupid we are. I will start with the typical line. WE ARE NOT ALL THAT WAY!!! Do not generalize men as girls usually do. That is a stupid generality to think we are all that way. Some great guy will probably come along and sweep you off your feet and jinx that thought you had! :) Consider yourself warned!! ;)

But no really, men do this because they are dirtbags. This guy is a loser who only likes the feeling of the relationship. How many people want a relationship just because they want the feeling of being in a relationship. This is true of both guys adn girls, but with guys, a girl will be meat if he is not a good guy. A guy who cares for his girl will love and respect and SACRIFICE for her. The guy that sacrifices a few times for you is a keeper. All the rest are probably dogs! But there are some keepers left in the world....One of them is me!! Now, I just have to find a keeper in a girl.....

Answer 5

because some people don't care about anything or anyone but themselves! They don't care about who they hurt, they just want what they want. That is why once a cheater always a cheater! When you are with someone you should only want to be with them. Calling other girls/boys is ok as long as its only as friends and you don't try to intentionally flirt or lead the other person on.

Answer 6

tell your friend 2 leave him alone b/c if he cheats on her that mean he really dont luv her he is either goin wit her just b/c she is pretty or just 2 say he have a girl but he a dog just tell her 2 let him go he's no good

Answer 7

MY opinion on cheating starts waaaaay before anything gets physical. I think that if you or anyone has thoughts about cheating or lusts someone else- That its self is cheating!

Answer 8

Maybe he wasn't hanging out with other girls for sexual reasons. Maybe he just wanted to hang out with people that speak English correctly.

Answer 9

i don't think calling them and hanging out with them is cheating..

Answer 10

because men don't see what they have is a good thing