have this guy..who flirts with me but he never really made an actual move, I know for a fact that he's an insecure guy.. there was one instance where he told me to call him if I ever wanted to hang out or go to a movie.. and there was another time where he asked me WHO I spent my holidays with, and on top of that he's always questioning me about how come I'm always leaving when he comes and talk to me... so I thought well he told me to call him if i ever wanted to hang out..so I made the first move and asked him to hang out.He told me that he would like to but it would have to be in a couple of weeks because he is broke....so I called him yesterday..and told him i was going to starbucks and if he wasn't busy after work, he could join, me he told me that starbucks sounds good, however today wouldn't be too good since he's busy, and that we would have to meet up sometime next week..then I asked him if he wasn't interested would he tell me? He said quote on quote "that we can meet up
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continues..." that if I wanna meet up sometimes we can" But he can't say that he is interested in meeting up as an ongoing thing" How would you interpret that...
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He told me that he is shy when it comes to women because he has been rejected alot in the past...and that he chooses not to pursue women, but he didn't give ny explanation as to why he doesn't
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Well.technically speaking he has asked me on a date..well not a date ..but he has offered that we work out together..and wants to see me play basketball..but then again he never followed through..
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Not to keep rambling on...But when we did work out togethere a few weeks ago...he kept saying you don't have to be here if you don't want to" and I 'm thinking geez why would he think that...then while we were working out..he picked up my phone and looked at it before handing it too me...and told me who it was...now that was weird to me
2007-02-22 04:32:16 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Interpretation:
He says that you two can meet up when he wants = he wants things solely on his terms, as evidenced by him not following through on previous plans w/ you.
He checked your phone w/o asking = controlling (and totally inappropriate for a first date)
Doesn't pursue women b/c of past rejections = (this doesn't even make sense b/c you seem to be the one pursuing him and he's not even responding, which means his actions are inexcusable).
Advice: Forget him and move on to a guy who shows more interest in you or is more responsive to your overtures and respects you enough to follow up on plans.
2007-02-22 04:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by whattodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, cut him some slack, he just sounds like he's a little insecure. Given some time he might be able to get confotable enough to be himself. Otherwise don't keep him hanging, it will hurt his feelings.
2007-02-22 12:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋