I have tried talking to him about how sad it makes me. I have tried the "Safe Side" video to teach him about strangers. Nothing works.
2007-02-22 04:31:45 · 24 answers · asked by jd 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
a good swat on the rear end..doesn't have to be hard..just enough to get his attention. a few times of that and he'll start listening.
2007-02-22 04:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice in your home where he can't go far. Don't chase him. Ignoring the behavior will most likely distinguish it. Pair this with a time out, but you MUST be consistant for it to work. Each time the kids runs from you, if he doesnt stop when you say stop, than he must sit in time out for however min he is old. 4 years old, 4 min, 5 years old 5 min. Tell him, you are sitting in time out because you ran away from me. You can continue playing, or have free time, as soon as you are done with your time out. It could be a little hard at first, but this usually works.
2007-02-22 04:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in spanking so, i would not suggest that. The best thing today is not run after him but walk towards him. Tell him, "When you run away from me, it scares me because someone else can hurt you. I need you to stay by my side. If you can not you will have to hold my hand." Your three year old will understand this, even though he does not confirm this with words. Spanking is not the solution to behavior problems: patience, and repetition are far more effective.
2007-02-22 05:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by falfalmgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In public, you may need to hook a harness on him(fastened in back so he can't undo it). He will soon get the message. At home, I would stop chasing him because he likely thinks it's a game. At that age, kids will test the limits to the max, so what we did when one of ours did that was to put him in his room each & every time he did it, and said when he stopped running when we wanted him, he would not need to go in his room so much. Our boy would just open the door & waltz out, until we got one of those things you put on the inside of the door know that just turns around & around but he didn't have the strength to squeeze hard enough to get the door open. It worked really well, because we established the upper hand and kept at the room thing until he got the idea that we were not giving in until he stopped that behavior.
2007-02-22 05:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by The Count 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't care what other people will say to you, get the chest harness with the strap. Morons will call it a dog leash, but the bottom line is keeping your child safe when you're out and making sure he comes back home with you and not someone else. Let them think what they want... My 3yo was the same way and now he's a happy 7yo who knows about boundaries!
2007-02-22 04:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by peachtek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ideas that might work are you could get one of those leashes for kids that should work if your out in public or in a store... I have a 5 year old and he did the same to me my friend segested the kid "leashes" but i felt it would treat him like a "dog"... I had to try it and it worked he is great now because he hated using the "leash". Heyy it might work for you too. Best of Luck!
2007-02-22 04:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are also describing my toddler. We hold on to him when we are out, and limit the time that we are out just for this specific reason. Wait a year, and it won't be a problem, but in the mean time, don't put him in situation where if he does get away from you, it is a problem. Take him places that it won't matter if he does get away.
2007-02-22 05:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids are runners.I had a couple.They make what used to called harnesses but now days are really cute with stuffed animals on them. Even Walmart carries them. You can attach the strap to your belt loop or wrist. They do work very well.
2007-02-22 04:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by subnmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always watch nanny 911 or supernanny they have ALOT of great tips to share!
I did watch this one show where they went to the park with their youngster and did the run away technique.
1. explain to your child VERY FIRMLY that he is not to run from mommy if he does you will leave the park, and he will not get to play today.
2. test it out
3. if he runs from you you LEAVE THE PARK!
try it again the next day, maybe the same park or somewhere else,
1. explain not to run away run mommy very firmly
2.remind him of yesterday, that if he does run away, we will leave immediatley!
he will get the point, you cant chase him, yell, or make it funny for him, always be VERY FIRM in this matter. He will understand you mean business.
2007-02-22 04:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by crystald 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry thats just away they know how to get attention. I have a little bother,and I have to be constantly running after him for everything. Don't be so sad about that, your child is just energetic
2007-02-22 04:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by sexinessloveness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reverse psychology, it has always worked for my parents on us when we where little, and it works on my nephews.
Example: Your son is running away from you, trying to avoid you, say to him don't come to me, whatever you do don't come here.
He is just exploring his newly found free will, and trying to make you see that you aren't in complete control of him, it's an independence issue. Just give it a try. Good luck.
2007-02-22 04:40:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋