have this guy..who flirts with me but he never really made an actual move, I know for a fact that he's an insecure guy.. there was one instance where he told me to call him if I ever wanted to hang out or go to a movie.. and there was another time where he asked me WHO I spent my holidays with, and on top of that he's always questioning me about how come I'm always leaving when he comes and talk to me... so I thought well he told me to call him if i ever wanted to hang out..so I made the first move and asked him to hang out.He told me that he would like to but it would have to be in a couple of weeks because he is broke....so I called him yesterday..and told him i was going to starbucks and if he wasn't busy after work, he could join, me he told me that starbucks sounds good, however today wouldn't be too good since he's busy, and that we would have to meet up sometime next week..then I asked him if he wasn't interested would he tell me? He said quote on quote "that we can meet up
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continues..." that if I wanna meet up sometimes we can" But he can't say that he is interested in meeting up as an ongoing thing" How would you interpret that...
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He told me that he is shy when it comes to women because he has been rejected alot in the past...and that he chooses not to pursue women, but he didn't give ny explanation as to why he doesn't
2007-02-22 04:24:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Not to keep rambling on...But when we did work out togethere a few weeks ago...he kept saying you don't have to be here if you don't want to" and I 'm thinking geez why would he think that...then while we were working out..he picked up my phone and looked at it before handing it too me...and told me who it was...now that was weird to me
2007-02-22 04:26:04 · update #1
Well the guy had better buck up as they say if he's going to have any girlfriends at all. You made the first move and the balls in his court.
2007-02-22 04:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, he really is shy, and really was busy that day. The phone thing was a little weird, but maybe he was just trying to be helpful, or friendly.
If the I'm busy thing continues, then start thinking that there is another reason that he keeps putting you off, like he is married or there is another person in the picture. You were right to question him.
And he was right not to commit to an ongoing thing quite yet, it seems a little premature. But a good answer for him would be, I do not know yet, I need a little more time, and some dates with you first, but the dates we had, I really enjoyed!. Try to get him to commit to a weekly meeting at a friendly, non-threatening place, like a coffee house, where you can talk. Have him pick the day of the week.
And find out why he was rejected, get him to talk about it. If you really like this guy, you do not want to make the same mistakes that the women who rejected him did, and tell him this.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 10:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's not married or already has another relationship of some kind. And furthermore if he is "too broke" to go to even Starbucks then you don't need a loser like that anyhow.
2007-02-22 12:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rich F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Stephanie - Ur patient & perceptive. His social skills r rusty.
2007-02-22 12:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by loidfish 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋