I have been with my boyf for about a year thinking that eventually he would tell his family of me . . . now he doesnt think this is ever a real possibility (too difficult) and we have sort of split up. I think if we were together longer, perhaps he would be prepared to tell his family one day...... hes understandably confused and doesnt know what is best...
2007-02-22 04:20:53 · 17 answers · asked by yck584y9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no because you will always be up against his other 7 wives
2007-02-22 04:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by punteroftheworld 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
He isnt confused, you are. He has split from you due to his family and religous beliefs. What is best is a guess at this point, but if he sticks with you he will have problems for the rest of his life from his family. If he sticks with his family he might find another partner with the same beliefs who will be accepted by his family. What is best is to let him go if he loved you as much as you want him to he would have introduced you and suffered his familys dislike of his decision.
Continue with that relationship at your own risk. Or let it go and in time mr right will show up for you.
2007-02-22 04:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by clever investor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't told his family about you and thinks it's not a real possibility and thinks it's too difficult and you've sort of split up-- he's NOT confused- and KNOWS what's best and a non-Muslim white girl isn't what's best. He knows he can't marry you- his mother would go nuts. Move on, unless you plan to convert to Islam
2007-02-22 04:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately for you hun it seems he loves his family more than he loves you. His religion will allow him to be with you, that is not the issue as many have said. But he knows what his family expect of him and if he truly wanted to be with you he would commit to you and tell his family.
I am married to a muslim man and his family were never an issue. At first older members were "concerned" but my husband did not worry about telling them about me. The first time I met them was wonderfull and now they are very important to me and I to them.
Maybe you could try talking to him, ask him what the problem is?
Good luck!
x
2007-02-22 12:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem. I like this muslim guy and we saw each other for about a month. I think we still lik each other, but anyways that's not the point. He couldn't let his parents know when he has girlfriends, and a lot of my friends said it wouldn't work because he is muslim. I just don't see the big deal.....
2007-02-22 04:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by tallyluver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to tell his family because if he does they'll disown him. I know a muslim guy who married a white women and his family disowned him. The had a funeral for him and everything because they considered him to be dead.
2007-02-22 04:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is Muslim , one he is only to be with his own race and a Muslim women . He used you and that is fucked up ! He never had intentions on introducing you to the family . They will not allow him to be with a white women . I am white and I have been with my African American man for 8 years and he has family who are Muslim and trust me they will disown this boy if he choose to be with a white women and a women who isnt muslim . GOOD LUCK girl !!!!!
2007-02-22 04:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Me777 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well if you guys like each other that much then things will work out the way you want it to. if he cant tell his family about you after a year, id be kinda cautious tho
2007-02-22 04:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, but at the end of the day it is obviously a issue with his parents, They need to deal with it otherwise i can't see that there can ever be a relationship, between you and your boyfriend.
2007-02-22 04:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will end up with a choice for him... you or his family.. you need to decide if you are to be together for life as his family will probably treat him as if he's dead..... i used to work with a pakistani woman who married an englishman and her family cut her off cold.. it's a big decision for him give him time...
2007-02-22 04:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by lion of judah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wont tell his family because he considers you a wh*ore.....and so do they..... Muslims why else wouldnt he tell his parents about you.... he is happy to sleep with you as long as no body knows.....
2007-02-22 05:01:40 · answer #11 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋