What perspectives do you currently believe with regards to effective parenting.?

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Also comment on : what do you percieve to be the problems today.

Answer 1

Over the years, I've come to be a strong advocate of Gentle Discipline and Attachment Parenting. It is sometimes the harder route as the "results" take longer to really see, but I believe it the most humane and morally correct form of parenting.

Our world is fully of violence, intolerance, and disrespect. I do not believe this is from "lack" of harsh discipline. There are many social factors at work. What we need as a people is empathy w/ one another and an internalized sense of right and wrong. Fear of punishment is not enough to get ppl to do the right thing.

Sources: Kellymom.com, LLL International, Mothering.com, AskDrSears.com, Couple to Couple League

Answer 2

I think one of the most important aspects of being an effective parent is to be consistent. If you say you'll leave the store if they scream again, you gotta leave. If you tell them to stop doing something, they need to stop or face a consequence. I think a lot of parents are a lot of talk and no action. I also don't believe in spanking. I think effective parents can discipline their kids using other forms of discipline. Yeah, I know the old, "it was okay for me" blah blah. However, I spanking is only a short term solution. If you really want to change a child's behavior, you need to use more effective discipline. Here's a great link.

Answer 3

If there is a label on my parenting beliefs, I haven't bothered reading enough to find out. What I have found out is that parenting is tough work, and some of my views change as time goes on....and I experience different issues with different kids. What works for one of my kids won't necessarily work for the other one. Here are some key points that have helped me: Stay consistent, follow through on threats/consequences (so think before you blurt one out), don't be afraid to apologize to your child if you handled something poorly, ask for help/suggestions from your own parents or spouses's parents (some of my favorite ideas have come from my mother in law), don't always feel the need to explain every decision you make, don't get drawn into an arguement with young kids, stay positive, try to point out as many or more positive things your child does as you do correcting them, don't discipline when you are upset (wait to calm down), it isn't a popularity contest so don't be afraid to have your kid upset with you, teach good morals to your kids, teach them how to be kind, caring, giving, draw boundaries, set and achieve goals. AND LASTLY....LOVE THEM, show them that you love them by listening and spending quality time with them and telling them how much you love them.

Answer 4

consistency, routine and unconditional love are my top 3 perspectives on effective parenting. i believe children respect a parent that can be consistent with routine and show love towards them even if that means discipline. discipline(when used correctly) is love. it is loving a child enough to help them understand what they did was wrong and that they are capable of making better decisions. i guess, overall, effective parenting is a relative term, depending on the parents priorities and values.

Answer 5

Children need to be taught that there are consequences for their behavior and the choices that they make. I see way too many parents making excuses for their children and the kids don't have to accept responsibility for anything.
The biggest problem I see is that so many children have a sense of entitlement. They have been raised to believe they can have whatever they want, whenever they want. I think it's wonderful that we can provide such nice things for our kids but unless we teach them that these are privileges, not necessities, they won't appreciate them.

Answer 6

Five across the eyes or the old right cross usually works

Answer 7

Spanking and hitting them. Lack of parental disipline. CPS interfering in a parent's life and telling them if they hit their kid or spank it they'll get child abuse charges slapped on them.

Answer 8

Awesome question!

I believe raising a kid in a good church is most important along with a two parent home.. Not only will it help them with development, but churches show a different view of raising kids. For instance, it is popular to throw kids on birth control instead of abstinance. Well BC and condoms, only partially protect our kids. But liberals say, "they will do it anyways, so give in and try to protect them" where a church would say, "Be a leader and coach them". Here are some stats with that.

More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime. [1]

The estimated total number of people living in the US with a viral STD/STI is over 65 million. [2] Every year, there are at least 19 million new cases of STDs/STIs, some of which are curable. [2,3]

More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STDs/STIs and their complications. This figure does not include HIV. [4]

In a national survey of US physicians, fewer than one-third routinely screened patients for STDs/STIs. [5]

Less than half of adults ages 18 to 44 have ever been tested for an STD/STI other than HIV/AIDS.

Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD/STI. [6]

One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD/STI by age 25. [7]

About half of all new STDs/STIs in 2000 occurred among youth ages 15 to 24. [8] The total estimated costs of these nine million new cases of these STDs/STIs was $6.5 billion, with HIV and human papillomavirus (HPV) accounting for 90% of the total burden. [9]

Of the STDs/STIs that are diagnosed, only some (gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, hepatitis A and B) are required to be reported to statehealth departments and the CDC.


One out of 20 people in the United States will get infected with hepatitis B (HBV) some time during their lives. [10] Hepatitis B is 100 times more infectious than HIV. [11]


Approximately half of HBV infections are transmitted sexually. [12] HBV is linked to chronic liver disease, including cirrhosis and liver cancer.


Hepatitis A and hepatitis B are the only two vaccine-preventable STDs/STIs.


It is estimated that as many as one in four Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong (but manageable) infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it. [13]


With more than 50 million adults in the US with genital herpes and up to 1.6 million new infections each year, some estimates suggest that by 2025 up to 40% of all men and half of all women could be infected. [14,15,16]


Over 6 million people acquire HPV each year, and by age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. [17] Most people with HPV do not develop symptoms. Some researchers believe that HPV infections may self-resolve and may not be lifelong like herpes. [2]


Cervical cancer in women, while preventable through regular Paps, is linked to high-risk types of HPV.


Each year, there are almost 3 million new cases of chlamydia, many ofwhich are in adolescents and young adults. [8] The CDC recommends that sexually active females 25 and under should be screened at least once a year for chlamydia, even if no symptoms are present.


About two-thirds of young females believe doctors routinely screen teens for chlamydia. [18] However, in 2003 only 30% of women 25 and under with commercial health care plans and 45% in Medicaid plans were screened for chlamydia. [19]


At least 15 percent of all American women who are infertile can attribute it to tubal damage caused by pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) , the result of an untreated STD. Consistent condom use reduces the risk of recurrent PID and related complications: significantly, women who reported regular use of condoms in one study were 60 percent less likely to become infertile. [20]

And even more stats:

Kids born out of wedlock to single moms are:

.5 times more likely to commit suicide.
•32 times more likely to run away.
•20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
•14 times more likely to commit rape
•9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
•10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
•9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
•20 times more likely to end up in prison.

•"Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages.

•Daughters of single parents are 2.1 times more likely to have children during their teenage years than are daughters from intact families.

•Nearly 75% of American children living in single-parent families will experience poverty before they turn 11. Only 20% in two-parent families will experience poverty."

•85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes

•90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes

•71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes

•75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes

•63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes

God is not an idiot when he made rules for his children. All the rules were not created to be mean, but out of love. Lets get it together America. Raise up Godly children.