I have this conflict between spirituality/religion and dating?

Question

I have been wanting to return to the church and become closer to God for a while now and recently dated a girl that was deeply religious and devoted to God, and she said she doesn't want to see me anymore because she cannot trust herself around me she has been true to God for the last year and a half and this time she hopes to stay true.

I only became successful in dating a year ago and before that I was not. I thought that sex in hotels, etc was what I wanted but now that I met this girl I think I want a spiritual/religious woman.

Thing is that she had been in a lot of relationships, possibly sexual, for someone in her position, maybe some before God I don't know. I feel like if I seek out a religious woman I am somehow giving up what I struggled for years to succeed at. That she will be more experienced than me. I will always have that thought in my mind if I should have fooled around more. I am way ahead of my friends, many of whom are way older than me. What do I want/do?

Zero Cool:

It means no sex before marriage and she has fallen off at that point before, she doesn't think she can resist me, she thinks the temptations is strong.

Answer 1

She has to stay true to God? What does that mean? Is she a nun?

I don't see the problem here, I really don't. I can't understand why she left.

Answer 2

My sister is the girl you are talking about, in fact, I had to read your name to make sure you werent her boyfriend lol..

My sister goes to our church, and is trying to live for God. She broke up with her boyfriend becuase she knew things would happen. But he didnt want anything to do with church, so you have him on that point.

She was sexually active in highschool (she is 19 now) and senior year stopped. So she is experienced, yes, but doesnt want that now.

The thing is, once your saved, im assuming your girlfriend is, your past is behind you. You can not hold her responsible for things she did in the past. And when/if you get saved, she also can not hold you responsible for things you do.. Jesus forgave you, isnt only right that you forgive her?

Being experienced is not important in this world. Maybe to worldly people, but how much more awesome would it be to get married to a girl, and your first time be when you have your honey moon. I think that is truly the best gift you could ever give her!

You girlfriend is being cautious, as she should be. Respect that. Get into church. She will see you as a godly man, and then you can start courting the proper way. Good luck, and stay pure!

Answer 3

Well, the Bible does tell us that fornication (sex without marriage) is wrong.

I think a man with strong religious convictions is very attractive. I think saving yourself (even if you recommit yourself to abstinence) for someone special and for marraige has a very postive effect on your relationship and will ultimately make you a better marriage partner.

Anyone can run around having sex..it's a person of substance who can deny their personal desires for greater good and for love.

Answer 4

What really matters is what is the big deal if she has experience or if you have experience, things such as that should not matter. If you like this girl, her past is not your concern, just as your past is not her's.