Is the age of 16 too early to get engaged?

Question

Wow im surprised about how many answers i got in just 5 minutes; 46 msg's, thankyou people, now im sure that i shouldnt get engaged before after 2 or 3 years, because life goes on and im still gonna meet many people in life so who knows maybe there is someone else in my destiny...

Answer 1

For sure - you have no idea how your life will turn out yet. Your brain is not even matured until you are in your mid-20s. The guy who asked me to marry him when I was 19 was not the guy for me, neither was another who asked me around 25. The best one and the right one I got married to when I was 28 - mature, doing well in my career, and I knew who I was as a WOMAN.
You have a big life to live yet. Finish high school, get post-secondary education, start your career, live on your own and learn the realities of the world by paying rent and bills, experiencing all the people in the world around you -- through all this you learn about your SELF, which is the most important. By your mid and late twenties, you will not even recognize the girl you were at 19!
Good luck ... and take your time.

Answer 2

I've never met a 16 year old that knew enough about what they wanted out of life to make a sound decision to marry, even if it's just an engagement. The teenagers I've met that THOUGHT they knew what they were doing? They're all either divorced, stuck in an awful relationship, or have 3 kids by the time they're 22 and wonder where their youth went and envious of us who have the freedom to go after what we have a much better idea we want.

When I think back to the relationships I was in at 16, I'm torn between laughing at my stupidity and awkwardness and shuddering at the thought of being married to who they are now. People change A LOT in those late teenage years; I know I'm not close to the same person I was at 16 now that I'm 24. And I don't think I was that atypical a teenager.

The earliest I would be comfortable with my son or daughter getting engaged is 20, and even that's a stretch. Maturity is indeed a factor, but as I said before, I've never met a 16 year old with appropriate maturity to handle being engaged.

Answer 3

Depends on the maturity of the couple. Some engagements at 16 go on to marry and it's for life. Unfortunately, the majority don't last. What you think you want at 16 can differ greatly by the time you are 21. Also it's good to enjoy life when you are young, getting tied down with house, bill and sometimes children makes you way old before your time. Have a good think about it before rushing in to anything. If it's meant to be it will stand the test of time. Good luck!

Answer 4

I personally think YES, and I am getting married this year at age 30. I think for the most part, I really changed into a different person in my mid 20's..... I don't even have the same friends. A lot of my friends were married at 21 and most of them are divorced or on marriage 2 or even 3 at this point..... and some are single with lots of kids.

When your single you have this great opportunity to do stuff before you have kids and a husband to take care off...... I been to Europe... traveled around the US....

I don't think anyone should get married until they travel and become independent and live alone for a little bit... NO matter how old you are.

Answer 5

YES!!! Way too early - even if you feel you love this person.

At 16 you should be having fun with friends, dating a few different people, so you can size up the choices, and discover what you really don't like and like in a future mate..

Teen years should be about having fun, not worrying yet about marriage, and trust me, if you are meant to be with this same person, in a few years, it will happen, no need to rush to the alter, you had loads of time for that!

Answer 6

{I'll answer this question, assuming your 16.} I think it is but that's just my personal opinion. I got with my boyfriend at 17 and we got engaged shortly after that. I'm now 30, we never got married and we just split up. I'm not saying that will happen to you but when we're at that age and get seriously involved we lose a part of ourselves because it not "ME" anymore it's "we" or "us". Do what you will but ALWAYS put yourself first, don't settle or let anyone keep you from accomplishing your goals and/ or dreams! Good Luck and I wish you all the best!

Answer 7

You are way to young. You guys might be very much in love now but what about if you guys to college and start getting interested in someone else then it wont be good. Just wait for a while longer and see what happens besides you need to enjoy life and other relationships before settleing down.

Answer 8

Yeah. But you are the only one who can judge that. I was married at 21 and thought I was ready. Not so much, as it turned out and now being much older (30 something) I am just really understanding what is involved in being in a healthy, loving relationship. It's difficult and confusing and scary but if you take it slow, it can be the most wonderful thing. ENJOY LIFE!

Answer 9

If you are mature enough to contemplate engagement then go for it. Otherwise wait for a few years to get to know the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.......

Life is what you make it and if you make a mistake then it's your problem.....

I got married at the tender age of 19 and 31 years later I am still happily married to the same person.

Answer 10

Yes because you do alot of maturing after the age of 16...you have alot of things to experience still before you settle down with one person. I know the hormones run wild when you are a teen and you think you are in love 4-eva but it usually turns out very ugly in the end...