My girlfriend, who was the love of my life, ended our relationship just about 2 months ago. We're both 18 and we have to see each other every day at school - I went through a stage where I was so heartbroken that I couldn't speak to her, and everyday I HAD to see her at school. It doesn't make a break-up/getting over somebody easy.
She wants to be my best friend still, but I only want her romantically. I can't help but feel angry towards her that she ended our relationship, and I am still devestated that she could of done it to me. There was no real reason.
Anyhow, I am just not doing very well at handling the situation and I need some advice. I find it so hard to talk to her or be nice to her. But she has hurt me, and I am not over her. I still love her. She wants us to be "best friends".
What do I do?
2007-02-22 03:51:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could try telling her exactly how you feel, then at least she'll understand why you don't want to be her friend. You don't have to be mean, either. Just tell her you need some time, but you don't hate her, and I bet she'll respect that.
Dude, if you were meant to be, it will happen. Just accept it, do some nice things just for yourself, and regain your confidence. Breakups are hard--but time and space away from her will clear your mind and make it easier for you to handle the breakup.
2007-02-22 03:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first maybe you should ask why you guys couldn't be together, like text her or call her on the phone, that might help with the pain of seeing her around school. SO... either your not ready yet to talk to her and be "best friends" like she wants, or you do not want a part of anything with her right now or even ever maybe, so you need to decide that. Because if you your just not ready to really be friends or either talk to her normal maybe when she tells you lets be "best friends" maybe you should just tell her the truth, your not ready and your not comfortable with the whole best friends thing.... now if you don't want any part of her right now then tell her, how it has to be, either your gonna be involved in your romantic relationship or not..... but just always tell the truth, its the best way to go..... good luck
2007-02-22 04:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by yayme_denae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, I have been on the other side of this situation. I was the girl that wanted to be best friends with the guy I dumped. He ended up getting me back. Now we've been dating for more than a year now. He told me that he couldn't be friends with me. He had too many feelings for me and he felt unable to be anything but a boyfriend. He said that he didn't want to be around when I got a new boyfriend. Everything he told me really made a difference. I ended up taking him back when I found out how strongly he felt about me. So, I guess my advice is to be honest with her. Tell her how you're feeling. Maybe it will end up working out : ) Good luck!
2007-02-22 10:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you just can't handle being friends right now.
I broke up with my gf a year ago. I still love her dearly, but couldn't live with what was happening in the relationship. She has wanted to be friends too. It would be nice since we both attend the same dojo and I'm always running into her. Still, it hurts deeply just to see her. I'd go back to her, but I know things just wouldn't change.
You need to let your gf understand how much it hurts be around her and that you need space.
2007-02-22 03:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I definitely could not be friends either if I were in your situation. She shouldn't be expecting you to try to have a friend relationship with her if she pretty much just broke up with you. Tell her you have a best friend, and it's not her. She was your girlfriend, and in some cases, there is a difference.
2007-02-22 04:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unwilling to dedicate finished heartedly to you; i do no longer see the factor of you men persevering with to speak and spend time at the same time such as you're nonetheless a warm and heavy couple...it truly is fairly difficult to declare you desire out of a dating yet desire to 'act' like your nonetheless a pair. She has to make a determination. NO....you're able to desire to make a determination. do no longer ler HER placed YOUR existence in HER hands.
2016-12-14 03:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation kind of, I really like this girl but I don't think she likes me more than a friend which really sucks, but what I do is I just do things that I like to do to get her off my mind such as Play Basketball, workout, hang out with friends etc. , I just say her LOSS!
2007-02-22 03:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by BAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok be the guy in this and dont if you cant deal with it be honest some guys just can't honestly i can't either
well only for seriouse ones
others are like whatever
but yeah just let her know it's your choice and it's unfari for her to ask something out of you
you can not give ok well good luck...
p,s what your feeling is normal...
2007-02-22 03:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you that you still need time. Just tell her that your not ready to be friends and she should understand. It might be a while before you are really ready to be able to be friends with her again. Good Luck and be strong!
2007-02-22 03:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by SweetPie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you will be best friends untill you see her with another guy and then.......well you should know.
2007-02-22 04:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋