I met this guy about 5 months ago, we started talking but nothing serious, lately we havent been speaking much. just on the weekends when he sees me out, all he does is watch me. I doesnt like when i dance with other guys but i dont really care because he isnt my boyfriend and he isnt stepping up to the plate. he called me to see what i was doing and i confronted him about only talking to me on the weekneds he had nothing to say so i hung up. now he keeps calling and not leaving messages, im not picking up and i saw him a few times and just walked past him. why the sudden change? i know he doesnt really care because if he did he would be a man and approach me the right way. I told him im not playing games so why is he? if he calls again should i answer? should i call him ...if he picks up ask him what he wants? OR should i continue to ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine?
2007-02-22 03:41:37 · 15 answers · asked by Stargazer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like there's just nothing there. He doesn't want to date you, but doesn't like you showing attention to other guys (as if he has a right to say anything). If he calls, go ahead and answer.
There's no point in ignoring him and giving him the silent treatment since he doesn't seem to care, so why should you? Don't sweat anything he says or does, judging by his actions he probably won't be in your life for very long anyway so why worry yourself.
Good luck!
2007-02-22 03:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you and him are not dating and he understands that you do what you want to then he can not say anything or get upset, why keep calling you and see you on weekends when he could see you on the weekdays too. If he wants to date you all that bad then he needs to say so or move on, it won't do any good to get him back or for him to get you back because you both would lose the game for sure. You have to decide for yourself what you want and if you want him to be around you, if not then let him know straight up that you just are not into him or his game and want to go seperate ways, if you feel that is that you will be happier in the long run and have a chance at something better which might be a better alternative if you want to be happy, which in this case who does not. He needs to know how you feel personally and you need to know how he feels personally or you both will have unanswered questions.
2007-02-22 12:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy likes u,.but may b he didnt realize how much he likes u unti he got the feeling of losing u to the other guys that u danced with ....but he is either pimp wanna b or a person with a big ego ,or may be a lowself esteem person that dont think he is good enuff to apprch. u.,but after all he did already called u for times,it means hes already give in,so if u like the guy, give him a chance to see what he got to say the next time he calls,ur in the upper position rite now ,and i think u should wait for him to call u again instead of u calling him...if he really does seriously like u he will call again...good luck and enjoy...:)
2007-02-22 11:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Wow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was mad at you and you weren't going out he is probably controlling anyway and you don't want a controlling guy.
If he thought you were together and got mad at you then he had the right.
but you said you was not together so I think he is controlling.
Pick the phone up when he calls you and see why he got mad at you. He could have thought you were together. If you really like him tell him and ask him if he wants to be with you. When you are not looking for a relationship is usually when you find one.
If you keep ignoring him the relationship will fade, it sounds like you already gave him a taste of his own medicine.
2007-02-22 11:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE HIM A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE... us women have to have pride & put the foot down if he continues to insist well if you are still interested give him a chance but put the rules flat on the table depending if you want something serious or just friend with benefits good look
2007-02-22 11:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by GISEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like this guy let him know that the little boy games aren't going to work with you, and if you don't like him let him know and continue to avoid him and he will eventually get the picture
2007-02-22 11:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills! omgosh he sounds like my now absent babys father. He only wants you when you dont want him, as soon as you want him - he loses interest. there is no way to have a real relationship with someone like this.. Hes a loser!!!
2007-02-22 11:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste your time with someone who doesn't care about you all that much? He's just playing a game- move on and forget him.
2007-02-22 11:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be a very shy guy and really doesnt know how to approach or let a woman know how much he likes her. so u may have to investigate the situation yourself
2007-02-22 11:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by tre_132mp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little strange. I think I would forget about him and not answer the phone or talk to him. You don't need it.
2007-02-22 11:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋