My bf last night woke me up in the middle of the night and started demanding sex. i didn’t feel like having sex so i just jerked him off, so he gets all mad and said that im selfish do you think he is right that im selfish or was he being selfish.
2007-02-22 03:28:24 · 9 answers · asked by ♥live life to the fullest♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE MUST HAVE DREAMED ABOUT IT SO THATS WHY HE WOKE U UP. BUT U SHOULD TELL HIM THAT U DID NOT FEEL LIKE HAVING SEX AND HE SHOULD CALM DOWN
2007-02-22 03:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by PUPPY LOVE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question I guess would be do you wake him up in the middle of the night, If you do then that might be why he got pissed off. But regardless it doesn't really matter, each time anything happens should be it's own experience and judged as such. Just because something happens in the past doesn't guarantee it happening again in the future. I agree he should just be happy you bothered to take care of him as much as you did. Most wouldn't of even did that. So he really doesn't have any room to ***** or complain. And if he was smart he would know all that was going to do is make the next time he tries to pull that he might not even get that much. Being he didn't appreciate what you offered even though you didn't want anything.
2007-02-22 12:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by tattooed_and_pierced_countryboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were being nice and even though you didn't want sex, you made a compromise. Rather than receiving gratitude from your boyfriend, he tried to lay a guilt trip on you.
Maybe you feel angry? Taken for granted? Unappreciated?
For some reason he thinks that playing the victim will get him what he wants: sympathy, more sex or whatever. From my experience, manipulation and victimhood is not sexy.
I say that you were not selfish, you were giving. He may not see that because he is playing the victim and being ungrateful. He may never see that, or he may come around. His past behavior will tend to predict how he will act.
kind regeards
2007-02-22 11:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfish, inconsiderate and needs a lesson in lovemaking 101. As
far as I'm concerned you don't wake up your gf and demand any-
thing, bad timing. I do however think that the best time for is in
the morning. Your refreshed after a nights sleep and you can
concentrate on pleasing your partner.
2007-02-22 11:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by RIKKI LEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he shouldn't demand sex, and if he does, then you shouldn't give in. He got the end result, but because you didn't give him exactly what he wanted he is upset at you. He is lucky he got what he got.
If anyone was being selfish, it was him, because he shouldn't expect you to wake up and let him do his thing. Most women like foreplay, and not many can just wake up and be ready for sex.
2007-02-22 11:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the situation. You may have not been selfish that night but you could be the type to get what she wants and does not care about her partner. We need more information about your sex life to answer that question. At least he got a hand job i guess.
2007-02-22 11:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by lethalx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was being selfish. That was actually very inconsiderate of him. To wake you up in the middle of the night??? Thats crazy. He should have jerked himself off. You should tell him to be more aware of you and your feelings. Its not right for him to expect you to do what he wants whn he wants you to.
2007-02-22 11:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non of you two are selfish...Just misunderstanding each other...Try to have a talk with him and settle it.
2007-02-22 11:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may not in e wrong... but may when u r rejecting him tt time ur tone may not be pleasant as u being disputed... therefore when ur bf dun get what he wants plus ur tone.. he is pissed out...
2007-02-22 11:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋