When we were kids, this girl and I were absolute best friends. We've grown apart now and live completely different lives hundreds of miles away from each other.
She's a SEVERE Catholic and always has been. She's having a very traditional wedding and wants me to be in the wedding party. Only problem is, my upper body is covered with tattoos.
I want to be respectful of her wedding and her beliefs and don't want to cause a scene. I know she loves me but doesn't "agree with" tattoos.
I'm not going to use make-up to cover them up for many reasons. Mainly because I don't think make-up would cover them and also because I don't want to slather my body with thick, smelly foundation.
Should I opt for a shawl? Or tell her I'd love to go not be in the wedding party? I'm torn. I'm not ashamed of my tattoos but want to be respectful of her day.
2007-02-22 03:09:27 · 14 answers · asked by Winette 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would opt for the shawl or a small cardigan. But definately talk with her. She may not care. Besides, you dont have to wear it for the reception. And this isnt to say that you are ashamed of your body art- this is geunine respect for someone you obviously care about. And if it were my wedding I appreciate the consideration even if i didnt care!
2007-02-22 04:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she already knows you have the tattoos and still asked you to be in the wedding, I don't think she cares that much about their appearance. She just wants you in the wedding.
If you personally don't want to make a scene, opt for a shawl. Suggest it to her. She may like the idea too. But don't just opt out of the wedding. That would hurt her feelings more than if someone had a problem with your body art!
Hope this helped, and wish ya the best!
2007-02-22 11:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she'd like you to do. She could either opt for the shawl or say that it doesn't bother her and let you show the tattoos. I understand not wanting that tattoo cover up make up all over. I have a large tattoo on my back that I'm going to have to cover up for a wedding I'm going to be in later this year. We have shawls though.
2007-02-22 11:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better talk it over with her. She might assume you'll cover yourself with clothing or makeup.
It's kind of weird that someone who has grown apart from you, lives a completely different life hundreds of miles away wants you to be in her wedding party. Nothing personal, but wouldn't you think she'd choose someone who is close to her, has shared her adult life, and shares her religious views? Is she just looking to fill up space-- I mean, does she really know who you are these days? I think I'd opt out of the wedding party for that reason, rather than the tats.
2007-02-22 11:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the dresses yet? If she is as Catholic as you say, then no one will be allowed to have bare shoulders anyway. You will all have sleeves/shawls/jackets as bare shoulders are not traditionally allowed in the church. You may also all have some sort of head covering, as bare heads aren't allowed either. You may be worried about something that isn't even an issue.
2007-02-22 12:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by rosekm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A shawl or a bolero jacket would be a good idea.The day is all about her and you do not want to steal the attention away from her. See what she thinks about wearing the jacket as this would be a good solution for you.
Good Luck.
2007-02-22 11:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with the above poster, your friend already knew of the tattoos and still invited you to the wedding,so this means that she is willing to ignore this if it means you come to the wedding. but you still want to be respectful so i would recommend covering up them with clothing, but never forget she is willing the put the tattoos past her if it means seeing you, so you should go.
2007-02-22 11:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Robo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her about a shawl, or a short jacket that could be made to match the dresses
2007-02-22 11:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for a shawl or some type of wrap.
2007-02-22 11:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your tattoos are a part of you! Its who you are. Unless she asks you to cover them, I wouldnt worry about it.
She knows you have them so it's not an issue unless one of you makes it an issue. Go and look gorgeous! Stand up for who you are!
2007-02-22 16:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋