our is the love marriage & we completed 5 yrs of it. i know him since i was in school,everything was very fine earlier but now everything changes a lot. I feel lack of trust between us specially from my side b'coz i don't trust him completely as i do earlier before our marriage.I talk to him abt my feelings and everytime he says he loves me a lot.But how could i cope up with all ups and downs in my life.Is all this was the natural thing or my expectations were high from him.Why don't he also have the same feeling as i have for him or every man changes like this after marriage.
2007-02-22 02:53:09 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He says that he was very busy and can't go with me anywhere.
2007-02-22 03:22:36 · update #1
And you don't think you've changed???
Change is what life is all about. Inside the security of a nurturing marriage you are free to continue to grow as an individual with the support of your spouse. You are going to have to learn to deal with the ups & downs of life. If you thought marriage was just the fun stuff then you are in for a real wide awakening. Those couples who plan on not having to work on their relationship usually have the roughest ride.
Why are you not trusting your husband? Has he given you reason? And how do you know he doesn't love you as much as you love him? Because you don't "feel" it? We all go through periods of time when these feeling occur, but marriage is about faith & commitment, not just the tingly feelings.
Unless your husband's personality has totally turned around or his behavior has changed drasticly then I would believe him when he says that he loves you. Ask him to find a few hours on the weekend to spend just with you & go do something together.
Life is full of responsibilities; it can be tough.
2007-02-22 04:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has given you a reason for distrust, then your own insecurity is the problem. With time, all people change. Some for the better, some for the worse. Also with time, we as humans get used to certain things and take them for granted. In other words, we get in a rut. Do some things to spice up your life. Have dinner some place different. See a movie or a play. Travel to some place you have never been. Try to break the habits and get out of the rut. If you have insecurities, you will always be miserable and it will destroy your marriage. If you have reason to distrust him, then your relationship may be in serious trouble unless you confront them. There can be no relationship without trust and respect.
2007-02-22 11:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by ThePerfectStranger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need a weekend away up in the mountains in a nice cozy cabin to rekindle some things!
2007-02-22 11:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋