What would say to your teenager (19) son who is smoking marijuana?

Question

How can I best help him understand he didn't do a right choice?
He says he's been smoking marijuana from time to time for a year now, and this didn't prevent him to continue with his normal life and get the greatest marks in university.

Answer 1

well I am not saying this as a judgemental message, for have smoked it before & have freinds who do, also I have freinds who dont and I dont anymore, it didnt make me feel any better it just helped for a short time fix, and well I learned its better not to smoke pot, I think he should stop why, 1 for his health, 2, because pot doesnt help your brain, it slows your train of thoughts, sort of speak. his brain would be better off with out smoking pot( marijuana)
It may not affect him now, but it does catch up, I have a brother who has and now he goes thru bad withdrawels and it makes you feel stupid specially when you have a good brain,
my brother is very smart but when smoking he seems stupid and messes up,
He is doing much better now though, He has now finally graduated high school, 5 yrs later, & he is an army national guards training. and doing well so far,
he still has some withdrawel effects he gets edgy ect,
I hope that if he hasnt done much that he will be able to stop smoking it before gets too much for him and cant live with out it sort of speak, if its something he can do away with now, tell him to stop smoking it, but in a nice respectful way, because you love and care for him and KNow he is a smart son and will do well and succeed better with out smoking that stuff.
and it doesnt smell very well either,

take care
hope you understood

also if he is smoking in your home, You need to be firm and tell HIm Not in MY HOME
because it is Ilegal
sorry against the law
He will get you in trouble if caught & If he cares and loves you He needs to respect your rules of household too and when near you if you dont like him smoking around you if he does, tell him Not around you, and never around children.

Answer 2

You can continue to reinforce your beliefs and opinions, but in the end you can't physically stop him. The one thing you could do is threaten to cut him off financially, but that might do more damage than good if he ends up dropping out of school.

Many many people smoke marijuana in high school and college. It's a phase that they usually outgrow by early 20s. As long as he's getting good marks, keeping in touch with the family, acting sociable, and his hygene or appearance isn't taking a turn for the worst, then I think he'll be okay.

Answer 3

WOW! I just busted MY son smoking a cigarette for the first time because he was curious what it tasted like. He is 13. I cried, but not in front of him. He handled it well, actually. He knew I smelled it on him and came back to me within the hour crying and confessing. I told him I know you wanted to try it. I did when I was young. Please don't TRY anything else. Talk to me first! The second time I WON'T be so nice. Your son is already set in his ways being 19. It does NOT mean he's mature in anyway, obviously thinking marijuana is a GOOD thing. I work with offenders. I'm a secretary for therapists. I see 'druggies' all the time. Tell him 'they thought they could handle it too'. Now they have a record along WITH a fried mind! It WILL catch up with you. The point of it not doing it suddenly is what catches their eye to want to keep doing it. You don't die overnight with cancer either, but it does work on your body day to day. Please pray for him and keep talking to him, but not in a pestering-nagging way about it. Don't yell - he'll just shut you down. Good luck!

Answer 4

You may consider requesting information from websites like MADD and substance abuse hotlines and websites. While the chemical effect is an issue, the consequences of getting caught are very real. He could lose so much, get into debt and even kicked out of school. It is difficult to make anyone chose the right decision. Good luck to you. Also, anonymously call the Substance Abuse hotline or the MADD hotline. They will give great tip on how to address this situation.

Answer 5

Before you judge marijuana, study it
Did you know :
that our last 3 presidents have been smokers?
Our first 3 presidents grew it commercially?
It is the oldest recreational medicine on earth?
It's use was promoted to fight alcoholism in the 30's during prohibition?
Some of the greatest creative minds that have lived were smokers? including: Isaac Newton,Benjamin Franklin,John Lennon,Ray Charles,Pablo Picasso,Mark Twain?

When grow in specific conditions it can be used for fuel,food,medicine,fiber for rope, clothes,packaging?
Marijuana is only bad for him because of our laws, and if you raise him right he can change those.

Answer 6

The only thing you can really do is tell him that you won't allow it in your home. Tell him if he gets into any trouble related to the pot....you won't support him. If he thinks he's old enough to make these kinds of decisions on his own (and he IS), he'll have to take it all the way and deal with any possible consequences on his own too.

Answer 7

I can see you are concerened as a parent but he is 19 there is really nothing you can say to him. You can ask him to stop, its up to him if he does or not, my dad asked me to stop smoking it when I was about that age and I did (daddys girl) for a long time.

Answer 8

just tell him how you feel about cause really that all you can do. you sound like a good parent so he will probably respect you enough to listen maybe not today but at least he'll know that you do not want him to do that

Answer 9

I smoke. So i cant tell you why to say no. Its gotta be a decision he makes on his own.. again.. no known harmful effects to ppl. in fact as soon as the govt finds a way to tax it... they will legalize it.

Answer 10

I don't see a problem with marijuana...so I wouldn't say anything. As long as he wasn't smoking and driving.