My boyfriend is in his early 30s. He is from a neighboor country-but not too close to me. Our relationship kept going on for a year.It was serious, we were been talking about living together...and we didnt have serious problems
Last time we met, and when we were together, a girl (she works in same buidling with him)send him many sms, to which he didnt reply.
He told me that she had a crash on him but of course he is not interested in her!While he was telling this, she called.
I anserwed - but i didnt understand her talking ( we dont speak same language) and then I hung up..my boyfriend was there too. Sms kept on coming...
but he insists nothing's going on - she is simply fighting for him
I am confused
I am paniced
she is near him but I am far away
I am loosing him
and I dont know how to react
I really need a good advice here!
2007-02-22 02:50:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well sometime you just have to trust the one you love. I think your missing alot communication in your relationship. Sit him down and let him know that you wont put up with a cheater and that's final. You need to know you don't have to share your man with nobody. If he is cheating your better off without him. There are lots of good guys that only want one girl.
Good luck to you and stay strong.
Never lose your self respect
2007-02-22 03:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess if it were me I would tell him the truth,that this is bothering me and I was considerring leaving over this. Tell him exactly how it makes me feel and how I wish he would not talk to her anymore, even if nothing os going on between them.
Then if he tells you your feelings are stupid, or doesn't stop talking to her, then leave. I know you think you love him, but if he can't do this for you, he really isn't that great of a guy. There are men out there who can treat you waaaay better than that.
I think he might be keeping her around for back-up in case your relationship doesn't work out, or possibly as an ego-booster or something.
No matter what his reasoning is, you both need to be honest, and respect each others feelings to have any kind of a serious relationship.
2007-02-22 02:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am giving you this advice as a brother that he is just playing with you and with other girl too. You don't know his local language, if he doesn't like that girl so who gave the private cell number to her and why she was sending sms to him. believe it or not your bf is just playing and cheating both of you.
So take this difficult decision and leave him. you will find someone closer to you who will love you more than him.
Bye and if you have any other problem u can send me e-mail at shari_love_shari@yahoo.com and I hope that it's the best answer.
Thanks
2007-02-22 03:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shari Khan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this, but here it comes anyway: Long distance relationships rarely work. Follow your instincts, the messages he's receiving should tell you something. She got his number, probably from him. Don't trust him, but I believe you already know that, but are in denial. Move on, find someone closer to you that you can trust!
2007-02-22 02:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares for you, she won't be able to sway him.
If she does sway him, then he was never really there for you to begin with.
Relax, and go with the flow.
Besides No man is worth getting all upset over.
If he leaves you will find someone you think is better anyway!
2007-02-22 02:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already lost him to her and who knows how many other women. If he were serious it wouldn't have taken this long. Pick up the pieces of your heart and find someone who can be a real man to you.
2007-02-22 02:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if is nothing going on with that girl...Then why she have his #? why she is text M him? ask yourself this question...Is really something going on...Some people likes to have a bunch because they don't want to be alone so he maybe have more then ust her and you...ANd ofcourse he will lie to you and tell you that she is obsessed with him ect all are lies...WHY she have his # and send textm? Dump him before he does is to you....Or you lik..e t be taking by a full? I hope not
2007-02-22 02:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? If you do, believe what he is telling you and try not to worry. BUT, if there are reasons for you to doubt his fidelity than you need to let him know how you feel and talk things out. Good luck.
2007-02-22 02:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is honestly playing you and her at the same time :(
Im sorry to say that though..
He probably tells her the same thing when/if you call or Txt.
2007-02-22 02:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just come out and ask him.. tell him what you've told us.. your fears and anxieties over this whole thing. Watch his body language and the tone in his voice when he answers you.... you will know.
2007-02-22 02:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Onyx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋