What would you do....????

Question

I am 16 years old... and I have been in Love with a guy, since I was 6! Now that the both of us are older, we talk alot, and go out together every once in a while. We are very close, but all he wants to be is friends. I respect him being honest with me, but I just don't know what to do. For the past couple of weeks, hes finally opened up and said "I Love You"... which I NEVER thought he'd say. Yet, I told myself I'd stick around and be there for him, hoping one day he'd realize what we have is real. Once he told me he Loved me, I was so happy, but we both had different intentions. Its as if we are boyfriend/girlfriend, but he tells me he doesn't know what he wants to do. I've been waiting for years.... and all I want is for us to be together. But it probably won't even happen. I'm suffering from serious VERBAL and EMOTIONAL abuse from him. What should I do??? I know I'm young... PLEASE I need ADVICE! Thanks!

Answer 1

Why are you staying with someone who is verbal and emotional abusive.

I don't think this is a difficult question to answer. You need to respect YOURSELF. You are worth much more then this. Find that strong person inside of you, who knows what she wants and who she is. NO male is worth your self esteem or self worth. Don't set yourself up for a lifelong cycle of abusers. Pay attention to the sings and warnings. You need to think about what is most healthy for you. And most of the time what is most health..isn't always what the heart thinks it wants. You need look at this relationship with your brain..not your heart..and do what is best for your mental health. What you have now with him is not healthy.

Answer 2

My advice don't rush things. If he verballyand emotionally abuses don't even get involved with him. because if you do he will end up controlling your life. telling you who you can and can not see. Think about if he really loved you and really love him the way you claim you do would be having the problems you have now. Listen you nee to sit down and talk to eachother get things out in the open that could be tearing a potential relation ship apart before it starts. Another thing you may want you guys to be together but he may not feel the same ways. even though he souns like a really big jerk to me I think you should put some thought into the relationship. Most imporantly you need to find out why he treats you the way he treats you. If his reason isn't good enough than you need to take a break from eachother from a while ok? Just don't want to see you get hurt. Many of my friends have gone through relationships like this and they tell me all the time they have alot of regrets about ever being involved with guys like that. Good Luck ! I'm rooting for you.

Answer 3

Hey! dont worry, itl all be ok! it seems that whether he is meaning to or not, he's messing you around. he might be unintentionally doing it but you dont need all the stress and trouble from a person. You may love him but still it might not be the right thing to be with him. I dont really understand why he says he loves you and then pushes you away. Maybe he's scared coz it seems odd that he opens up and then says he isnt sure what he wants. Its good that he hasnt said he definitely doesnt want to be with you. but then again, its still keeping you hanging on. Maybe you have to try and be strong in yourself and try to think of life without him. You'll meet other guys although it probably doesnt seem like it now. I think you need to find out for definite what he wants. And if he cant tell you then you need to decide for definite what you want and stick to it. do you want to keep trying with him and keep the stress or do you want to try and move on? hope this has helped, take care xxxx

Answer 4

If he's being abusive, move on! You deserve much better! You are also way too young for this type of emotional commitment! Live your life, see what life is all about. Time enough to tie yourself down to one person once you've experienced life, and grow a bit older. I'm not trying to be rude, or uncaring, just real!

Answer 5

if he is verbally and emotionally abusing you, RUN dont walk away as fast as you can. You've known him for a long time... however this "love" may just be a feeling of the known.. you are comfortable with him and havent dated really that much or at all because of him.

Give yourself a chance to be alone and the right guy will come along

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself this question... Do you love him because you are attracted to him and want to be with him or do you love him because your each others best friend in the whole world, you know each other so well and what each other likes and whats?

Sometimes you can think you love someone for the wrong reasons. i think you should have another chat with him and tell him how you really feel, maybe then he will tell you the truth to-you never know maybe he's hiding his true love for you too.

Answer 7

dis guy u talk to he mite not want to be with u like u want cuz yall are real good friends and if yall get togather then stop going out how would that mass with yalls friendship so just tell him how u fell and if he stell dose not go out with u then there our other boys out there>
VERBAL and EMOTIONAL abuse is he really likes u then he should not do that to u if he told u that he loved u but like i said if he dose not want to be ur man than there our more boys out there.

Answer 8

just keep your distance from him for a while, maybe if your not always there he will realize that he misses you and does actually want you or maybe you will realize that you only want him because he is always there and you think that you should want him becasue of it
xxx

Answer 9

Tell him that you love him too if its true. Tell him you would like to go out with him and be his girlfriend. If he declines you get to know him a little nore and ask him again. Try to be flirty and fun when your around him. Stay cool!!!!!!!!!!!