At least once per week, I look after a neighbour's 11 year old son because his parents are busy people. The odd thing is when he has his best friend over, I always catch them holding hands, hugging, touching each other's legs if they're wearing shorts, and I even walked in on them making out. They are inseparable friends, and I don't have anything against gays, but should I stop them from doing these things since since they are bit young for this stuff?
2007-02-22 02:45:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You should let this boys parents know what is going on, and let them handle it as they will. If they want to give you instructions on what to do when you are there then they will.
But if you are sitting for any child and they are displaying sexual conduct with another, then you should always advise the parent what is going on. No child at the age of 11 is ready for sex or a sexual relationship, it may be nothing more than experimenting, but the parents still need to know. And while pregnancy is not a concern for this boy, or his friend, if this were a girl it could be, and the parents need to know about it.
Whether it is a boy or a girl, gay or straight, the parents need the opportunity to talk to their child about sex. They may be busy parents, but maybe news like this will wake them up to talk to their child.
2007-02-22 03:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, it's not odd by any means, but he would need a bit of sanitation.. kids at 11- shouldn't be in any kind of relationship without passing puberty.
I mean, 2 boys, sounds about right - it's going to be hard to get a girl into it.. I'm sure if he had a 'girl' friend (not girlfriend), then maybe it would be the same.. with her.
In a few years I would and hope to expect he's going to be hanging out with all the chicks and bringing them home.
Just let them continue.. whenever they do thoes actions infront of you: question or discourage them, then you have a reason to tell his parents..
They'll find out for themselves: it's better touching girls than it is touching other boys - they just have no girls yet because it's not everyday a 11yo brings home a girl :\
Let the time fly by.. you'll know.
Dys.
2007-02-22 03:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just mention to the parents that you happened to walk in on the boys and they were kissing.. laugh about it and make the comment that they must like a girl and were practicing on each other. But then the parents can handle it from there. I would definitely want some to tell me if my son was kissing on another boy or girl at that age. I am sure it was innocent, but still it is not something they should make a habit. Good luck.
2007-02-22 06:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor kids are confused.. but u know what.. when I was growing up there was an age of experimentation... You should not allow them to make out they are too young even if it was hetro ... Just keep them where you can see them that way they do not go too far!!! 11 is too young gay or not to be having sexual relations and being alone can lead to more... Kids need adult supervision especially during the puberty years.. Please keep them occupied with positive things.... I am probably not the common response but I do not think that Gay is what these kids are.. they are kids... they are just not being led down the right path- kids cant choose their own things they need guidance- u are there to watch over them.. make them stay where u can see them...
Sorry for you to have to be the one but u should tell his parent too... they need to know.... 11 is not old enough for this activity- Same sex or otherwise
2007-02-22 02:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Christal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids are going to experiment. It's a tough question because telling his parents could really have a negative impact on everyone involved. The parents may not be as evolved as you are when it come to their kids orientation. Maybe the kid is doing this because he gets no attention from the parents. You did mention they were very busy. As long as they're not doing anything that could hurt each other then I would say let it be. When the kids are together maybe you could involve them in other activities with you so they feel like someone is paying attention to them.
2007-02-22 02:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Nick C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are going through a stage of phase of adolescent sexuality. Most likely at about 15 they will feel more masculine and will not practice such behavior. Their behavior is sexual and it would not be in appropriate for you to mention that such signs of affection should be more private. ( holding hands, hugging is okay) If they are mutually masturbating each other and you see them doing it mention and reinforce the privacy issue without causing any embarrassement. Just excuse yourself and offer to have a talk or counsel with them later if they have questions.
2007-02-22 11:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Geo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter for the parents to deal with. Gay or straight, an 11 year old who is experimenting sexually needs guidance and rules from his parents. The parents may decide to lay down the rule that he is not allowed alone in a room with this friend of his - in which case, all you can do as his babysitter is enforce the rule.
2007-02-22 02:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are the person in charge so this makes you the boss when you are there. It is inappropriate for two children to express themselves in this way. Are you certain the best friend's mother is aware of this behavior? She may not agree to any physical contact with anyone. When you are sitting, do NOT let the best friend over even though it is easier on you. Or..............just do not sit for this kid anymore. You are leaving the door open for false allegations!!!!!
2007-03-01 10:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should let the parents know about the incident. Don't let the other child come over while you are taking care of the child. Make it appoint to talk to the parents alone, and then let them handle the problem.
2007-03-01 10:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know 11 is pretty close to the border, kinda like the NEW 13 now a days . Ask them if they would like to behave like this for their parents ? Perhaps ask if they know the " Nanny Cam " is hidden and recording as you speak , whisper it like a big secret . Maybe they are just messing with your mind . I would tell what I know .
2007-02-25 15:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋