I'm a 19 year old girl that is getting married this summer and the man that I am going to marrie is 22 years old. we have been together for 4 years and 7 months together and he asked me on february 14 of last year. so what do yall think about that?
2007-02-22 02:36:17 · 37 answers · asked by myshia h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I say CONGRATULATIONS to ya!!!
So you're 19....what's the big deal?
I got married at 20 - fresh 20 at that! I've been married for over a year now.
If you love the guy and he loves you, do it! If you've weighed the consequences and the benefits, and you still like the idea of getting married, then go for it. Do what you want to do with your own life. None of our views will make a difference in your happiness. You are a grown woman and therefore know what makes you happy and what doesn't.
Hope this helped and wish ya the best with your future marriage :-)
2007-02-22 02:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you feel its right its right. Obviously though you might be having second thoughts or you wouldn't be asking on here. You haven't really had a chance to date around because you have been tied down to the same guy for the past 4 years. Its OK to be tied down for the rest of your life but not during your prime dating time (which your in now). You never really know what kind of man you want to marry until you date all types and styles. You shouldn't marry without living together, Living together changes EVERYTHING. You go from being able to escape for a few hours each night to being in each others faces 24/7. If you were 19 and have been dating several different people for several years and you know this guy is the one then go for it you know what you want. But if your only getting married because you don't know otherwise and your comfortable being together and have been together for so long... you need to get out and see what else you can have.
2007-02-22 02:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. You haven't really experienced anything else or life for that matter. What if you go off to school and you as a person changes? Or you move and meet someone and then regret being married? For a very few people does it ever work in the long run to get married at such a young age. I would say think really hard about it before you do it. If he left tomorrow, would you miss him truely or would you miss the fact that you have been together for so long. I almost did it when I was your age and then I left for the Army and found who I really was. I see my ex from time to time when I go home, and am gald that I got out while I had the chance. He is still doing the same thing as he was five years ago and now I am happily married to the man of my dreams! Good Luck!
2007-02-22 02:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by jbug742 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, from experience. I met my now ex-husband(but we are still together) when I was 12 years old, I married him when I was 19 years old and we have two beautiful children together. BUT if I could do it all over again I would not have married him when I was 19 because we went through some very rough patches and wound up getting a divorce but only stayed apart for about 6 months. We had alot of growing up to do and alot of things that we hadn't done yet. And beleive me when I say after you get married things will be different......But now Icould be wrong you could have the best relationship and never have a bit of problems. But if your having second thoughts about it then for yours and his sake I would postpone the wedding maybe another year or so. Just make sure that this is what you want to do
2007-02-22 02:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off what is done is done. But that doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Why not find out about school or a job so you will have some adult time. I know that was my biggest problem when my son was born I felt like a prisoner in my home. Then I got a job and felt so much better. It's not that you don't love your child or your family it's just needing that time to yourself. If you can't do that then when your boyfriend gets home ask him to take care of him for an hour and you go to the gym or grocery shopping or something to get out of the house just that little time alone makes a big difference hope that helps.
2016-05-23 22:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married whan I was 19. I have been happily married for ten years and looking forward to more. I believe that it is your understanding of what marriage ought to be that is key. If you know that marriage will be hard and that you need to have good comunication, common goals, values and so forth. Keep in mind that things like finances, parenting, religion, will be be very big issues in a marriage. Be sure to talk about these things before you get married. Often these things get over looked. You don't want to go into a marriage that the hausband wants you to stay home with the kids, when you had intentions of working. Be sure you are both on the same page wth issues like these, and also understand that there will be disagreements. Just know what you are willing to compromise on. Best wishes on your life together or not.
2007-02-26 02:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Nichoda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 20 and my husband 22. 13 years on we are still in love. Being married so young has not prevented us from living our lives and being where we wanted to be in our lives. If anything the support we've given each other has made it possible to be where we are today. It helps that we both want similar things out of life. Not everything the same, but we do support each other even when we don't always relate to what the other wants. But that is all part of loving someone for who they are and encouraging them to be who they are meant to be. I wish you all the best and only you can answer the question truly. If you think you are mature enough, that you love each other enough to be there for each other in every situation no matter how difficult, then go for it. Marriage can be tough sometimes, but I've heard the same about being single. It doesn't matter what path you choose to take in life, you will always find that there are smooth and rough patches in the road. Make sure that you talk to each other and make honesty a priority, no matter how difficult the topic is. A marriage with a strong foundation of trust and love can weather any crisis.
2007-02-22 03:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Avril P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should wait a bit longer because at this age you are still changing mentally and physically and you are not able to know unless you are a bit older. There is still time for you but you should really think well because marriage is not only based in love! It is a very serious thing. It is two people uniting their lives and all of their advantages and disadvantages! Some don`t take it so seriously and think it is just a game or "lets try it" etc and they are soon found in the unpleasant condition of getting a divorce! So you`d better think twice or more before doing such a thing!
Oh and you don`t have to get married, just try living with him for half a year to see if it works out! Best of luck!
2007-02-22 02:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Annietska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a great thing. I believe that if you find the right person for you, you should be with them. However, you do need to think about a logical answer. Do you both have jobs? Can you afford to settle down and start a family. If you can then go for it. If you are in school or whatever, I would wait. Marriage is only a name thats bonds the two together. You don't need it unless you are going to have kids and start a family. If you arnt planning on it yet, then look at all sides. Get a job, save some money. If you guys can afford to live together, than go for it. if you are going to be living and your parents house then don't do it yet. Only fools rush in...but if you have your life settled down and are ready to start a new life with someone, go for it. If you aren't sure or are not ready, there is no problem with waiting a year or so. You can still be engaged and be together.
2007-02-22 02:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by dave k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i got married and 18 right out of high school and the guy was 26(that was part of the problem) and it ended 2 years later. If you 2 really and truly love each other then when the time is right you will know. I wouldnt rush into marriage, while your in high school everyone always talks about getting married or being engaged but its not all that. So just really think it hard and see what happens.
2007-02-22 02:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by becca_sc2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It honestly depends on the couple.
There are couple that marry young and end up in a divorce, and there are couples who marry young and grow old together.
But the chance of getting divorced is there no matter how old one is.
As long as both feel it's right, that's what matter. And after all, you've been together for quite some time so it's not like you are jumping into things.
Congratulations!
2007-02-22 02:46:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋