ive just been dumped by my girlfriend but she still wants to remain tight friends?

Question

So ive been dumped by my amazing girlfriend, and shes really confused. She wants to remain tight friends, but i still like her. From what her friend tells me, she dosent know what to do now because shes not sure if she regrets dumping me. What do i do?

just adding some details- we got into a small fight, like i was in a really bad mood and was kind of mean. later on she acts wierd and just said she dosent feel the same anymore. i still like her, and i dunno...i want to be friends, but i really doubt it will work out that way--thanks a lot people

Answer 1

What exactly is she confused about? If she was having some sort of conflict about the relationship why didn’t she just come talk to you? Whatever is confusing her until she works it out, how can she even be a friend to you. She dumped you for some reason that she needs to resolve. Being close tight friends with an ex can lead to problems. If she decides that she wants to date someone other than you, how are you going to feel when she tells you to back off. If you decide to live your life and date someone is she going to be a pleasant tight friend or cause drama between you and whomever you’re dating? If you can be a friend to her, do so but as far as being tight, pass on that option. She’s keeping you close until she finds someone and if that doesn’t happen, she’ll decide that she’s over her confusion and take you back. Who wants to play that game? Tell her you can be friends but you’re not waiting for her and since it’s over you’ll be dating others. After all she called it off so she has to deal with the friendship on your terms now.

Answer 2

Well if you don't feel that you can "just be friends" then be upfront with her and tell her that you still have feelings for her and don't think you can put your feelings aside and be "just friends" right now. She can't expect you to be really tight after just breaking up. It takes time. Maybe she'll realize she's made a mistake, or maybe she just settle for talking every now and then. Either way you have to protect your feelings, and keeping in close contact with your ex right after a break up will only confuse things. Good luck!

Answer 3

If she regrets it, you will know soon enough. Just keep in mind that usually ''tight friends'' after a relationship usually means either keeping you around till something better comes along, or an excuse to look good cause she dumped you.
I hope that its neither and that she regrets and comes back to you with no lame excuses.

Answer 4

Honestly, if she doesn't know what she wants, why stay tangled in that confusion? Time will heal the hurt. Stay strong and true to yourself. Take time to hang with other friends and have fun. Then start looking for someone who knows what they want.

Answer 5

Ok, she might want to keep it "tight" b/c she wants to keep you as her rebound. If you do want her back, just kinda ignore her don't be an a** just pretend like it doesn't bother you, talk to other girls make it seem like you have moved on, then she will think that if all these girls want to talk to you then maybe she was mistaken. Then it's up to you if you want her back or not. There are plenty of girls out there don't just be suck on one especially if your young.

Answer 6

You are right about 1 thing:she is confused.what was her reason?was it logical and make sense?I think that you both need time to think things through but if you really love her and she really loves you too then dont hesitate and be with her.GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

be her friend if u think u can.. it might be hard since u still have feeings for her, but she might reliase that she wants u back if u stay close to her.

Answer 8

give her space and let her breathe. Keep living your own life.

Answer 9

give her room, be freind if it is ment to be time will tell no question about that